Did I lie?

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Hey gorgeous ladies, 
So I need some advice on whether my bf is overreacting or his reaction is exactly the way any guy would react. 
My man and I have been together for about 2 months now, everything is still so so fresh and just to add the sex is AMAZING!!! (I know🙈 it's only been 2 months and we've already made love) but anyway, getting back to the point. I fell pregnant last year October and lost my baby beginning of December just before my birthday 😭😭😭 I was broken, so broken that it affected my relationship with my then boyfriend, I just couldn't handle it and on top of that I found out he was cheating on me, but that's besides the point. So anywho, jump to almost a year later I've met this awesomely intellectual and sexy man. So now the issue is I didn't tell him about my miscarriage until last night, 'cause I feel like I trust him more. But now the thing is, he's pissed at me for "lying" to him. 
Is it lying or disclosing something that's so personal to me, something that broke me to my core or am I right in thinking that he's completely overreacting??
What would you have done? Would you have told your man from the get go? Are you like me? Don't tend to trust very easily? Was I wrong not to let him know from day 1?

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I think he’s overreacting. A miscarriage is a very emotional personal thing and I don’t think anyone would just go around announcing they had one to everyone, that’s something you share with someone you feel emotionally comfortable with and you trust with showing your feelings to. If anything he should be happy that you actually felt comfortable and connected enough with him to share something like that

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How is not telling him lying? Did he ask you if you ever had a miscarriage and you said no? If not, then you didn't lie. You just didn't share one of your most intimate parts of your life with him yet. It's only been 2 months. I'm sure he hasn't shared every little detail of his life over the past 2 months.

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He's overreacting. You're not going to tell someone that the first day you meet them. You two have only been together for two months. That's not a long time at all. Two months into the relationship is pretty early and an acceptable time to tell him something like that. I don't even think it's unacceptable to never tell. I would take him being angry over this, as opposed to supportive and comforting, as a red flag.

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I really feel he is overreacting. That is such a personal piece of information, and 2 months is SO early in a new relationship...I didn't tell my now fiancé about mine until...8 months in? And while I could tell he was shocked, he was also very caring and knew to tread lightly on the topic. He said he was sorry that I had to go through that. But mad? Absolutely not. You didn't lie. There are things you wait to tell people when you feel ready. You're good. 💕

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That's a very tender topic to speak to anybody about. Just explain to him that it wasn't meant as a hidden secret but you wanted to make sure you felt comfortable enough an felt ready to let him know now that you are further into y'alls relationship. explain that it was very painful to lose your child and you didn't feel ready to tell him when you guys were just hooking up. he should understand that what you went through wasn't a stroll in the park but something no one should ever experience. if after explaining all this he still doesn't understand and thinks he is in the right to be mad, i would simply say it's soemthing that hurt me dearly and you can't accept that I trusted you to open up then we shouldn't be together.

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You weren’t wrong to not tell him. It’s a personal matter close to you and your decision as to who you tell! ❤️

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Complete over reaction

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He's over reacting. I wouldn't tell someone right away either. Does he really KNOW what a miscarriage is? Maybe he's confusing it with abortion. Still not a reason to call you a liar but if he's super pro-life that could upset him ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ idk. Girl you're not in the wrong here, so keep your head up.

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He's overreacting. Did he get angry that you didn't tell him or just upset that he feels you didn't trust him? Because if he got angry that is a big red flag to me. Something like that is personal and you don't have to tell anyone that you don't want to.

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He shouldn't be mad. But being pregnant is a big deal. If he had gotten someone pregnant and didn't tell you, that would spark some feelings. But I don't think he should be pissed off at you

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