Should we divorce?

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My husband and I have been together for a couple years now and I'm currently 15 weeks pregnant. We both have other children, but this will be our first together. 
Anyway, due to poor communication we've been getting into a lot of arguments lately. We also work together and own a business *hello stress* in his previous marriage, his ex wife handled all of the finances. Now he's kind of thrown all of the financial responsibility on me. I tried to talk to him about it because I'm having a hard time balancing all of the bills on my own, and he blew up on me, screamed at me, etc. which is frustrating because I just need help but he thinks I'm blaming him for things. Every time we argue he tells me "just leave" or "go away" and it breaks my heart. He just told me that he'd get me an apartment and he'd just live at our store, and I said," I don't want to do that..." but then I said, "but you do, you've obviously put thought into it" then we got to work, he went in, and now I'm going to get a latte because I feel like I can't even go to my job. This happens at least once a week or every other week. 
Should I "just leave"?
He has bad communication skills and I e seen him struggle to get thoughts across in a proactive manner with others as well. 
I don't know what to do. 
❤️
*Update*
Talked to him about counseling or researching ways to work on it and he says no. We talked a bit more and it seems to be going nowhere. 
Our bills are astronomical and extremely overwhelming. In the past couple months alone his child support we got down from 1800 a month for one child to 1000 a month... which we still can not afford. We don't make that kind of money. He also took responsibility for all of their tax debt because of divorce papers he signed without consulting a lawyer and is now getting IRS letters for 8 years of taxes, totaling 60,000. These are agreements he agreed to that he can't afford, that are just now really coming to light but now he's taking it out on me. I make much less than he does, and I can't afford it either. 
So i really don't know what to do. I've been trying to be helpful, but he isn't interested in working on us communicating better. 
I thought we had kinda talked through it, and we sat down to eat after we got home and he wanted to know where I went after I dropped him off at work. I told him I went to Starbucks, and he asked if I met up with someone. I just looked at him. Wtf

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Sounds like he might be re-living his problems from his first marriage with you? Specifically when it comes to financial stress. To me it sounds like he is getting defensive because he's used to a wife trying to control his financial choices and you're just trying to collaborate on it. He's bringing baggage. Maybe try to have someone mediate the discussion about finances and maybe even let go of being a part of the business? Your marriage is more important than your job and it brings financial stability to the household if you know you're guaranteed a paycheck from another boss. There might be a compromise there that you can find. I always like to think that we are not trapped. We are adults and we have every option available to us and can make any choice that we so choose to improve our lives. There might be some choices you can make to alleviate the stress and find a balance on financial responsibilities.

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This sounds like it can be worked through . I wouldn’t throw in the towel over this. Seek marriage counseling.

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I didn't read it all but my theory is, if you liked him enough to have sex with him and conceive a child 15 short weeks ago, you should like him enough to continue to work on things with him.

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Communication is a big part of a relationship. My SO and I just got engaged because we were still having issues with communication but we talk about our problems more than we ever have now that we are engaged. We also have one child and another one on the way, so we have to communicate. All I’m saying is, marriage is work and if you guys cant have an agreement on communication or help each other communicate then you shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place. I’m sorry you’re going through this 💔

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He sounds stressed. Maybe hire someone else to do the finances? When my husband and I argue eventually one of us does leave for a while (usually just to go to a different room) and we revisit once we have calmed down and can talk like adults

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If try counseling before divorce

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I think these issues can be fixed, if he is willing to work with you. Counseling for sure. And maybe finding a freelancer/employee to help with the books.

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It sounds like talk are dealing with a lot of stress. It also sounds like he doesn't know how to communicate well. Have you tried stating things like "I feel overwhelmed doing the bills on my own." "It would help me if you helped me come up with a solution for (insert problem)" Or "I feel very hurt and unwanted when you say things such as "go away" or "just leave" and I would like to figure out a better way to express this"
My DH was always in relationship with woman who attacked him or talked at him instead of talking to him and after 5 year's together and 2.5 year's of marriage, he has come a long way..but we still have our moments!!! Communicating is an on going and always changing thing, have patience and try different ways to talk to him to get through this. 
Most importantly, take care of yourself!! You are the only one who knows how happy you are in your heart and how much you have to give.

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Therapy maybe and if that doesn't work maybe you should then look into your other option, which is divorce. Communication isn't always something people will be good at, but something that should be worked on.

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