So my brother and his girlfriend along with her daughter had moved from New York to Florida I believe 2-3 years ago. Both of them were doing good apparently while in New York. A few months into living in Florida, my brother gets in some sort of argument or altercation with a co-worker, and, as a result of that lost his job. Since that has happened they have been struggling. The girlfriend according to him, is lazy, doesn't clean, doesn't cook, doesn't take care of the children like she should. He's the one that when he gets off from work, he has to clean, cook, take care of the kids and tries to figure out other ways to provide for them. The oldest child is somewhat out of control. Since living in Florida, they've been evicted at least 3-4 times. They ended up having a little girl together last year. Fast forward to now, they've been living in a hotel for a few weeks. Some days living in their car.

Prior to this, they were living with an older woman, because my aunt helped with that. After some time, the woman ended up disliking the girlfriend because she did absolutely nothing and the older child stole from her. I believe she had a part time job when they first lived in Florida, but nothing since. She is financially irresponsible because whatever extra money they get from her parents usually, she takes it and buys unnecessary things or just blows it. My brother finally after his training works as a corrections officer and so he's trying his hardest to gather money for a security deposit on an apartment but it's hard because they're still in a hotel. She just had another baby sometime last week. He ended up getting some of the money and is waiting on his other sister to send him the rest. They weren't even able to buy the newborn a car seat so I sent him the money. He usually has to ask here and there for help.

I get home today and my mom tells me, the girlfriend has taken both of his kids plus her oldest and just left. According to her, the oldest child wasn't going to sleep and my brother got pissed and slapped her, punched and kicked her off the bed. But, according to him, he roughed her up and pushed her off the bed.

Now on his part, I've heard the way he speaks to these kids using the words shit or get your ass off the floor, whenever he would be speaking on the phone to my mom, I would overhear this. He's not physically or any other form of abusive, but speaking to kids like this is a big no no. My mom says she's told him about that and his response is always, they're my kids.

I think she was unhappy, stressed, sad, depressed and therefore didn't care about anything and this was the last straw. I personally think it was a toxic and unhealthy relationship and having another baby didn't help their already difficult and stressful situation. My mom has tried to talk to them both but to no avail. I simply told her, there is nothing you or anyone else can do if they aren't listening to reason. They will have to handle this on their own.

Thoughts?