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Hi. totally understand you. my parents were like that as well but I used to be a little rebel lol. so maybe they had a reason to be very protective over me. but you should try to talk to you granny and see if you can move in with her maybe and if not try to find a daily job and move to another state. because I'm a tell you something it is ok for parents to worry and protect there children. I mean we can be 50 and they still see us as their babies. but you have to be independent no matter what. and your grown. and about the suicidal thoughts you will not earn anything with that. you have to be strong and find another way out of it. because death is not the solution. but I mean you can keep me updated and lets see what happens k. but never think about the easy way to get out of a situation.
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My father is a control freak. I dont mean that he need to have a plan, I mean he feels the need to know where I am and what I am doing at all times. I'm 19 and he doesn't allow me to drive, go to school, get a job or even walk my dog. He allows me to go to my grandmother's house only if I respond to hourly texts and he stays in contact with my grandmother constantly. Texting every half an hour to make sure I'm with her. I have no history of drugs or any inaproproate behaviour and he justifies it by telling me I am "unstable" and "naive". I've spent the last year trying to learn to drive and make friends behind his back while at my grandmother's house where she lets me see friends and encourages me to get my licsence but I won't be able to see my grandmother as often anymore so I'll be stuck at 'home'. I'm not sure what to do and I have no where else to go. My father won't even let me have my state ID card. I have no life experience and no money. I feel hopeless and have considered going to a shelter but there's none available to me in my town. I've even had thoughts of suicide just to get out of this situation but I can't seem to bring myself to act on it.
I feel trapped and useless and lonely. I don't know what to do.
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Legally you're an adult at eighteen, you can leave and do whatever you want, he has zero say despite what he might think. Talk to one of your friends and formulate a plan to move in with them or your grandma for that matter. Then work on getting a basic resume together and apply for a job or enroll in school or both. If he tries to forcibly make you come "home" call the cops, this is kidnapping at this point, he cannot dictate anything. This will be hard but what he's doing is illegal, it's invasion of privacy, false imprisonment and so much more. I hope you take your freedom.
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You may also be able to work through child protective services, I would call them too.
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