Why men are so damn messy?!

I'm tired of talking to him about the same thing over and over... put your laundry in the laundry basket, clean up after your self, if you're done with the toilet paper put one back the list goes on! 🙄 every time I talk to him about these things he gets upset... have a lil bitch ass attitude talking about I'm sounding like his mother 🤦🏽‍♀️. How I was raised is to clean up after myself, putting thing back after using something, when I finish cook I clean up the kitchen. every time I clean the house making it look spotless and here he comes... next day the place is looking like a pig pen! Idk if it's me that I'm overreacting cause I was raised differently or I'm supposed to put up with these things... any advice please!