Is it fair that I have to do this?

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So sometimes when my boyfriend touches me (sexually and non-sexually) it’s uncomfortable BUT usually if I say something like “that hurts” or “that doesn’t really feel good” he throws his hands off of me and says “fine I won’t touch you at all” and is mad at me for 20 minutes! So now I just let him touch me even when it hurts. Is this fair?

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That’s exactly how relationships rape starts. 
Don’t let him pressure you into it is your not willing.

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Ummm no. Fuck him. Do NOT allow anyone to touch you if you're uncomfortable. Y'all need to sit down calmly out of the bedroom. Explain to him that he either needs to understand that you don't like certain things or you can't be together. He's emotionally manipulative and borderline abusive. I'd dump his ass so quick.

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He can be mad and in his bitch fit all he wants. But maybe you two can explore what doesn't hurt so that he knows how to touch you without causing pain?

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Sometimes guys just don't think. My fiance used to come up behind me and surprise me with a spank on my ass. It always hurt, and I always said OUCH! Sometimes he even left a handprint. But he thought I was joking. He didn't realize how sensitive I am and how strong he is. Finally he did it one day and I said OWW and started crying bc I didn't understand why he kept doing it if he knew it hurt me. He felt terrible and said he really thought I was joking when I said it hurt and he never meant to hurt me. He's more gentle now that he realizes it. But if you've told him that he's hurting you and he knows you are being serious then he needs to stop and not act like a child.

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That is in no way okay. You have a right to voice how you want to be touched. You don’t owe him your body (just submitting to discomfort for his pleasure/to avoid conflict). What might help is guiding his hands and communicating when he touches you and it doesn’t hurt.

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Why does it make you uncomfortable when its non sexual? Maybe your body is telling you something. You just have to listen to it.

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My boyfriend does this a lot. Most of the time he’ll joke about it, but there have been times where he’s kinda annoyed by it

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Do you maybe need to see a doctor? And stop getting guilted into something you don't want to do because he throws a fit. Be strong.

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Idk my bf sometimes does this to. I think he feels bad that it hurts and hasn't learned how to not hurt me... since some days he can do something and I'm fine and others it hurts. But I mm just like whatever and then he's like I'm sorry let's try again. Maybe let him have his fit cause he probably feels bad.

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I feel the same way my boyfriend gets all pissy when I don't wanna or its uncomfortable and it's very stressful and I feel like sometimes that's all I'm there for

Is it fair that I have to do this?

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