Is it bad to date an older guy?

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So I'm 14 and the guy I'm dating is 23,9 years difference. Is it bad for me to be dating him?We met online and my parents don't know and its getting harder and harder to keep this big of a secret. Should I tell my mom about him?

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It’s bad because its illegal. If you where of age, and he was the same amount of years older, it wouldn’t be bad because you’d be an adult making your own decisions. Right now, he’s a pedophile. You’re way too young for him, and you need to realize he’s way too old for you right now, you’re both on completely different levels of life. Plus the fact you met online, he could be way older than what he told you, you honestly don’t 100% know this guy and know what his full intentions are. You should really break it off with him, tell your mom if you want, but really if you have a thing for older guys, save it for when you’re legally able to be with them

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what the hell is he thinking! what are you thinking?? NO! SHUT IT DOWN!

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Sweetie you're 14.. A normal, healthy adult wouldn't feel comfortable dating someone that young. myself have always been interested in older men, even when I was your age I was interested in men that age. But now I understand, I grew up without my father and craved male attention, specifically from older men. Now I don't know your situation, but I can relate. So please take some advice from someone who has been in your shoes, cut that relationship off. 1st off you have no idea who he really is, people get catfished all the time, and he could be in his 40s or 50s! Its actually dangerous sweetie! And your family would be devastated. Because they love you and want to protect you. Don't continue with this. Because some men are really good a grooming girls your age, and being super nice.. but that's how girls go missing and sometimes end up getting killed. It happens. so please don't. Find a cute boy around your age!

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Umm yeah that’s illegal...

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hell no that's not okay. it's illegal for one and for 2 you're still a child. he's got Ill intentions girl. no man that age would date someone that young and not have a hidden messed up reason for it. I'm not just saying it because of age difference (my husband is 16 years older than me) I'm saying it because your not even legal and barely a teenager.

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You guys are gonna get IN A BIG BIG NO TURNING BACK PROBLEM...if somebody reports this situation...he will be prosecuted and tried as a SEX OFFENDER. Statuary rape. I've seen this shit with kids almost the same age Girl 16, boy 19 witch to me is CRAZY CAUSE a 19 y/o boy is waaaayyyyy more immature than a 16 y/o girl nowadays. Imagine your bf: THEY WILL DESTROY HIM IN TRIAL. Leave him alone before his life is ruined for ever, cause once u are on that SEX Offender list...life sucks ( I had a good friend who slept/used to hook up with this lil hoe teen WHO NEVER TOLD HIM her real age and when the mom reported him and the other SIX guys, his life was destroyed: military career dishonored PLUS sex ofender charges...he can't find a job, he can't live close to schools, parks etc NOT EVEN close to home day care ...like he was living with relatives cause he was homeless and got the call from his PO and told him he had 15 days to find something and move out ). And just one Q's...this BF of yours is very irresponsible and for that I wouldn't trust his real intentions. You my friend are just A KID, ok???IDC how big and mature u are...but at 14...you are gonna change a lot and there's a lot of things that u are missing out for being in a secret RL.

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Eww, you’re a CHILD and he’s definitely an adult. That is creepy.

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You better hope your parents don't find out because if they do and they have any brain cells they'll call the cops since your bf is a pedo 🤷‍♀️

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he sounds like a creep. why would he want someone your age?

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agreed, illegal. If he can wait for you and you guys strictly be friends with no sexual talk then o can see that being okay. my fiance and i are 11 years apart. I would be grossed out if my fiance tried to snatch me up before being of legal age when i am an adult. plus older you get the less naive you are and more aware of what you want in someone.

Is it bad to date an older guy?

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