he tried to leave me once for another girl he had cheated on me with and u wouldn't give up on us we ended up back together thank God I love him but have caught him (yes after regretfully going thru his phone and stuff) messaging chicks that r his friend here n there things like hey beautiful can I suck your belly button...ect and always on porn/sex websights but swears that my accusations and distrust us what drives him away... mind you I've been with him for 9 years what would you think