im confused! help!

hi all!

I don't know if this is truly a love and sex category post but it kinda fits? I think?

I am looking for any opinions/advice that could help.

(also my story telling is terrible so sorry if things are confusing)

so I met this guy, first year University, developed a huge crush on him and after that year, had come to the conclusion he didn't want to be anything more than friends. I decided that I would be ok with that as he was a good friend/study partner to have. jump to present day (fourth year University) he asks me on a date. now we go on dates, which are more like hang out and hook up, but we have gone for meals and activities as well. he has specifically said he doesn't want the hand holding / nicknames (like babe or honey).

this would probably indicate he wants to be friends with benefits right?

next problem/confusion,

another friend I have and prior to starting whatever it is with the previous guy, I had started to develop feelings for this friend, and he keeps popping into my head at random times, even if I'm with the other guy. we have a flirty friendship, but neither of us are bold enough to do much more about it. I've also only known this one for a year, so if I truly had feelings for the first guy, would I have even really noticed the second? or am I really over thinking things?

on top of this, the first guy is being super kind and taking things so slow as we are both virgins and learning (he actually researched how to make a girl orgasm or something along those lines) and he told me he wants to make me happy (sexually).

what should I do? I know I want a relationship, not a FWB situation, but I'd I don't want to loose the guy, especially because I know i have feelings for him, and I have really enjoyed the two times we have slept together (not because of the failed attempts at sex) more the waking up to have him next to me. but then again, the second guy has popped into my head as a 'i wonder what it would be like with him instead' one of the morning for a few seconds.

any help/suggestions/comments in general would be greatly appreciated! thanks in advance!