Just slapped during a blow job?

Question

Hi,
I wanted to post and ask here since there more anonymity. So I am dating a guy and we are both into very kinky stuff (we bite, he spanks, chokes, pulls hair, etc). He mentioned once he likes to slap in the face during hook ups. I was giving him head and he was slapping me in the face with his dick a little bit which is fine this obviously doesn’t hurt. Then I asked him how hard he hits when he slaps in sex? And he said I’ll show you and told me to blow him and he slapped me probably 5x in the face. (Yes this way asked for and I’m not asking about abuse or any such! I was totally consenting) and it just really scared me and made me feel vulnerable that I went home and bawled. I have never been hit in the face before by anyone. It’s not even that I didn’t like it it just terrified me that he likes to hurt me? Thoughts, opinions, anything??

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okay then don’t do it anymore ??? i don’t understand why you cried . he told you about his kink , you said you’d be willing to try it , you tried it , you didn’t like it .... the end . next time y’all have sex just be like “hey i didn’t like that , let’s not do that again” done . why make it complicated

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If you aren't 100% comfortable then I think it's time for a serious conversation with your partner. You did consent, but if you didn't really like it then you shouldn't do it again. Exploring what you like doesn't mean you have to continue doing something that bothers you. 
At the end of the day you should both be comfortable and satisfied. Sometimes talking things out puts your mind at ease, and sometimes you just don't want to do certain things. Either one is ok. Be you! Good luck to you!
There's a great balance that will work for you, you just have to find it and don't feel pressured to do things you don't want.

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I totally understand the feeling of vulnerability and the uncertainty. Was there any aftercare given? It's important, especially when trying something new that might leave you more emotional or confused. Face slapping is one if those actions that can leave you feeling more sensitive, because it involves a certain level if degradation, in my opinion. I would suggest you talk with him about what you felt before, during, and after. Think about whether you are open to this and what you would need to feel more comfortable and supported. I don't think he wanted to hurt you in such a manner, though most of the kinks you mentioned do involve a little pain so there is the inclusion of that to some extent.

Your feelings are normal and natural, take care of yourself and give yourself time to think things thru and the discuss with your partner. Good luck!

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If it scares you then explain it and don't risk it. I've been in relationships where the kink turned to abuse.

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just don't do it anymore. if he's not willing to respect that then leave.

Just slapped during a blow job?

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