Do I have the right?

Question

I was in a casual relationship with a guy for about 6 months. He had a habit of being super present, friendly and affectionate at one point, to being being a complete condescending a-hole and disappearing for days at the drop of a hat. When we started having sex we agreed that it was just sex, but if we started having sex with someone else, we’d let the other know and decide how to move forward. 
There were multiple occasions where he would do things to make me mad (break plans with me to hang out with friends, disregard things I said, or say things to lower my self-esteem). One day, he sent me a whole bunch of pictures of half naked girls on tinder he was trying to match with, and I got offended because 1. Why is he showing me this? And 2. When I asked what the point of him showing me all the girls he’d like to sleep with me was, his reply was that I had no right to be mad and he didn’t care about my problems and if I didn’t like it I didn’t have to stick around. So I didn’t. 
The question is, was I justified in my anger, or was I really just being crazy?

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I think ur not doing enough in the first place.  this idiot sounds nasty,  arrogant and rude. why would u even put up with that? there's a milionare and one NICE guys out there. that would be happy would "just sex" and with an actual relationship.  why are u still even DEALING with this moron? do u have a right to be upset? hunny, I would have told him to go shove some shit , a looong time ago.  open relationships are fine, nothing wrong with them,  casual dating,  same thing.  but there's one important thing that's he is missing - RESPECT.

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You can be mad if you want, but you’re fuck buddies, nothing more. You get together to have sex, if he “breaks” plans to hang out with friends it is what it is.

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I think he was being disrespectful, but you chose the relationship. I wouldn't talk to him anymore. Or be spiteful and send him a bunch of pictures back of guys you want to sleep with. Do what ever makes you happy. This guy does sound like a douche and just remember if your having sex there's always a possibility of getting pregnant. Do you really want to risk having a baby by this guy?

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I mean, you were just fwb. So you shouldn’t have gotten upset about his changing plans and such. 
His retaliating with pics of other girls is childish... but again you were just fwb. So though childish it wasn’t exactly wrong of him unless you had said specifically that you wanted zero knowledge of his other prospects.

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You have the right to lay out a boundary saying that you don't want to see that. You don't want to know. I would also recommend laying out the boundaries as far as him respecting you as a person a little bit more and not being rude and saying things to bother you. It's important for you to know though, self-esteem comes from SELF, so if he's saying things that bother you, just remember how you feel about yourself and you'll be fine. But if you do hold yourself in the highest esteem, then perhaps being with someone who is rude like this is not in your best interest. I also think that if you responded that way to him, maybe you are developing more feelings than you're actually allowing yourself to admit to. Ultimately, you have the right to feel however you feel about it, but if you know that you do not have an exclusive relationship with him, then anger is probably not the appropriate reaction. He's just expressing himself as he would to any other friend. He's assuming that it wouldn't bother you because of your lack of desire for exclusivity.

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Be mad. Then channel that anger into getting out and finding someone that treats u right.

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Both of you were right. He was being so extra with low self esteem comments and the pics of other girls. Like you don't want to be in a real relationship with that guy anyways if that's how he respects women. Anyways, you don't owe him sex. Just move on.

Do I have the right?

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