It’s a long story. Kudos to you if you read this whole thing! I’ve known my friend for almost 20 years. We grew up together since late elementary school, same club swim team, modified, JV, Varsity, the whole shebang. Went on summer vacations together. People thought we looked alike and we were the “twins” and would dress the same at my family reunions to see who could tell us apart (not many could). We had our ups and downs, wouldn’t always talk, but we were always there for each other. We both lifeguarded & got each other jobs. She was one of my bridesmaids in my first wedding, all the girls even got ready at her parents house instead of mine. You get the picture.

Fast forward to this past year, as I’m getting ready to move out of state to get a masters degree, and we’re working at the same place, and once a week, the same shift. She just got engaged (I was planning my second wedding to my perfectly amazing and supportive new husband), so we would talk wedding, swap vendor contacts and estimates, etc. She would tell everyone that I was the only person from work going to her wedding, and we talked countless times about me and my husband coming up & where to stay for the wedding, etc as it wasn’t a wedding I would willingly miss. Going Away Party, she didn’t show up. She told me goodbyes aren’t her thing. Okay, fine.

Fast forward: I didn’t hear back from her RSVPing for my wedding, so I texted her about it. Her response, “sorry unable to make it.” Nothing else. Come to find out via Facebook she went camping that weekend, less than an hour away from where we were!!! I got married at a campground/backwoods resort!!! Wtf! And we are also realizing we never got an invitation to her wedding by this point. She had our forwarding address, she knew I was already planning on coming up, and I know it’s not because of downsizing the guest list - last count was over 200. So I was hurt, felt betrayed, etc. and now I’m like, well if she’s that petty and self centered, so be it. I don’t want negativity and two faced people in my life. We had a good run as friends. She makes no effort to communicate back to me unless she wants to pry, like what job did you get, what job did hubby get, how much do you make, um, none of your damn business.

Her wedding is this weekend, so I’m just going through the gamut of emotions all over again before I go back to contemplating deleting her off social media, etc. Does that make me selfish or crazy to feel angry and irritated at all of this? Any advice/similar experiences?

YES, I have tried talking to her, she won’t answer the phone or respond to a text. Just when she has questions (see above) will she Snapchat me and then disappear once she asks