So done with her...

It's thanksgiving here in Canada... and I decided I'd be extra adventurous and lovely and plan a nice thanksgiving dinner for my in laws. My partners mom and I have had quite the rough patch since my daughter's been born so I thought a nice dinner would be great. So all weekend we've been cleaning and last night when baby went to bed I MADE centrepieces and thanksgiving decorations... even hand painting a nice watercolour psalms verse (she's very religious)... picked up a free range fresh turkey, bought all the yummy fixings and this morning got started on everything. Of course when baby woke up she was extra grumpy and didn't want to be put down at ALL all day long... so I had my partner help with a few things but mostly did it on my own. I made turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes, carrots, gravy, salad and perogies. Then they come over and I have some light jazz on in the background so we can still talk and enjoy each other while I finish cooking. His mom was supposed to make a pie and her famous mac and cheese pie but she just bought one which was fine. So they're here and she complains that the tv is off and there's a game on that her husband wants to watch so my partner tries to convince her that we'd like to talk since it's the holidays but somehow the tv gets on.. ok fine. Then baby is crying while I'm in the kitchen so I scoop her up and take her to the kitchen to check on something and I hear her say "why does she keep taking her away?"... (she believes in letting babies cry)... then I go to breastfeed her and come back and we eat. After we eat I'm exhausted from the day so I take a break and play with my daughter on the floor while my partner and his mom start the dishes. I hear her say "wow she cooks like your dad, just leaves all the dishes!".... so now I'm pissed... does she have any idea how hard it was to cook this meal for her?? Especially when my daughter was so needy today?? I don't say anything... and my daughter is reaching down my shirt again and so I take her to feed her again. My partner comes in the room and asks if I'm ok and I tell him I'm hurt by what his mom said so he said he'd go talk to her. I come out and all she says to me is "you were feeding her again??"... yes it's called feeding on demand and I don't care what you think. The rest of the night she was trying to force my daughter to let her hold her while my daughter cried out for me, then tried to force her to stand up, force her to walk... all while my daughter cried. I'm so tired of her... she's so ungrateful and makes us all miserable when she comes over. She's so controlling and keeps trying to control my daughter.... I just feel so defeated... I try so hard to prove myself to her that I'm good enough for her son and that I can parent my daughter without all of her criticisms. Why can't she see how hard I'm trying??