My husband is a SAHD and I'm a SAHM. We have enough saved up for him to enjoy the first year of our sons life. All the milestones.

However he has a super close relationship to our son and takes him out, does nights, changes him, all the stuff any dad does.

Whenever he goes out he gets people asking "are you not with the mother anymore?" When he says he has the baby to give me a day off they all go "wow, that's incredible. Does she have postpartum depression?" He's like "no I just do my fair share".

Or when someone says "oh you look tired" and he explained s he did a night with the baby, they go "isn't that the mothers job? What guy does that?"

It's annoying because he is very masculine but it seems like caring for your child means you can't be both. Like getting excited about his lamb snowsuit is silly, or when he can't decide to dress him in dickies or bunnies because both are cute. He has people tell him that it's the woman's job, or that I'm lazy, or he can't be doing a good job because he is a man.

He is extremely masculine, he is the head of the house and looks after us all. If someone makes a degrading comment to our son when he isn't behaving, he puts them in their place. He works hard. He is dominant in some areas and I LOVE it. I love so much that he can be both, but others peoples comments sometimes get to him.

Does this happen to other dads? How do you feel? What can I do to make sure he feels like he doesn't have to give up one thing for another, he can be a great father and a great husband without losing who he is.