Why doesn’t anybody warn you...

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About the baby blues and how you’ll feel after you give birth/bring baby home? I thought I was prepared with all the information I needed to know when I brought my daughter home & then it hit me... I cry for no reason, I get angry really easily & as embarrassing as it sounds I sometimes question wether we made the right choice. I am only 1 week pp and I already feel like the worst mom. I have already been seen by my doctor because I don’t know do what extent these baby blues are “normal” before it’s considered PPD. Please ladies, don’t judge me and for the love of god tell me i am not alone in feeling this way. I love my daughter more than anything in the world and I do not understand where these emotions are coming from. I keep seeing these posts of moms saying they absolutely love being moms and how easy it is and I can’t help but question if I’m doing something wrong 😭

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I felt the same way mama. I think it's not talked about because people feel like having a baby is a beautiful thing (which it is) so they feel embarrassed when you feel down, angry, etc, etc. I honestly felt like labour was nothing compared to postpartum. I'm sorry you're having a rough time though but it sounds very normal. Here's what I recommend... put a self care plan in place... literally do these things everyday... sleep when baby is sleeping, shower everyday and put on fresh Pjs, eat nutritious food and have someone else do everything else... DO NOT cook, clean or worry about anything. You need to take care of you and baby and that's it. Please do not feel guilty, it's a really difficult and sensitive time right now but I promise it'll get better.

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I cried everyday. Cried when my husband went to work then pulled myself together bc I knew my mom would be coming over to help. Then cried once she left and pulled myself together again bc my husband would be home from work. As silly as it sounds, my advice is to shower everday. I would walk around all day without showering, brushing my teeth and never changing out of my pjs. It wasn't until I started showering everyday that I felt better. It's dumb I know. But try it

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THANK YOU!!!! A million times thank you ladies for not judging me & for sympathizing with me. I had a really ugly meltdown today and I even told my mom she was annoying me because she wasn’t telling me what I wanted to hear. She went for a walk and came back and we had a long talk. Her and my hubby told me how much they loved me and that it will be okay even though it doesn’t feel like it right now.  I should mention how I went for a drive. I fed my daughter and left her with hubby and told him I’d be right back. I found a random spot to park and begged god to help me through this very hard time. I’m not sure why this isn’t talked about more often but I’m glad to hear it’s all “normal” 🙄😒 part of the hormonal process. You have all been so kind to me! & even though I know it’ll get worse before it gets better, I feel okay as of this moment so I’m taking it all in slowly and enjoying it. ❤️❤️

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Oh babe you are NOT A TERRIBLE MOM and you are NOT ALONE!!! I am so so sorry you feel this way, but it’s a huge step to acknowledge your feelings and try to combat them. Keep up with your doctors appointments and get the help you need. Your body just did an amazing thing but it’s freaking out right now. Take it easy and be kind to yourself - you are incredible.

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I don't get how this isn't talked about in OB visits! My midwifery group discussed it the entire third trimester and talked to me about it during my hospital stay after giving birth! There needs to be lots of education about this!

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After 4w it’s considered ppd. Trust me it will slowly get better. Mine was awful the unfortunate recipients where my older kids and husband.

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I cried for two weeks straight. Those hormones are real and they fuck you up. If it continues beyond two weeks then you need to be evaluated.

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For two weeks I cried every day almost all day. Every time she did something new or someone said she was getting big I would bawl because I didn't want her to grow up. I also called my mom crying because "I can't do this! I'm a failure" at least 3 times. Baby girl is a year old now and I've got my act "somewhat" together. You got this mama, just ride the wave.

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