I used to be a stripper.

I’m all about women empowerment and women enlightenment. And I see a lot of women on here are completely clueless about what goes on in a strip club so I have to spill the tea!

A little back story, from age 18 to 21 I was a stripper. I have stories for days. I know all the ends and outs. And I’ve had clients of all colors and all status from all walks of life. I quit stripping at 21 because I wanted my boyfriend (who is now my husband) to trust me and I was just ready to close that chapter in my life and start a family.

NOW IT’S TIME TO SPILL THE T! 😂

To the women who say... “I don’t care if my husband goes to a strip club. It’s not like they can touch them or anything...”

Uhmmmm.... can’t touch who? 😂 We are allowed to give consent to touch us and 90% of strippers do because we get way more for those dances. They can lick, suck, rub, insert fingers, etc. Now there are limits, however. You can not full on start having sex... in a easy to view area. There are specific rooms as well as after parties for that. I personally never have had sex with a client, but it’s not out of the normal for it to happen & I’ve seen it happen multiple times.

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To the women who say... “I went to a male strip club and have a blast! Of course i trust my husband if he goes alone to a female strip club” 🤦🏽‍♀️

Girl girl girl.... the amount of naiveness is really cute. Take my word for it, male strip clubs and female strip clubs ARE NOT the same. Don’t allow yourself to play yourself like that 😂

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To women that say.... “I trust him”.

Girl we trust your man too 😂 We trust he’ll pay good money for the dances because we know exactly what to do to dry out those pockets. And he trust us, and knows we’ll take good care of him. That’s why he’s here. See how that “trust” word has several sides? Don’t be mad ladies, if the teas hot when it spills, it burns 😂

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To the women that say... “he goes to strip clubs but doesn’t get dances. It’s just where him and his friends like to get drinks.”

You’re right girl. There are a LOT of men that go to strip clubs and really don’t get dances.... the first time. But the 2nd or 3rd time around... girl come on... it WILL happen. He is expecting it to happen eventually, that’s why he’s at a strip club. Him and his friends can have drinks anywhere, there’s a reason they’re choosing a strip club. Let’s stop lying to ourselves.

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Now we’re going to talk about the women your man pays to make his penis hard, you know, the strippers 🙂 This is going to be the craziest part for me to write because it’s like, wow, I was one of these women too though. But I just don’t want to leave anything out and y’all NEED TO KNOW THESE THINGS.

Well strippers have games. Several several games. It’s all about the money honey. And they literally will do whatever. We have so many ways of getting our money from these man you would not even be able to understand unless you seen it for yourself. You have the “Carmens” basically these are strippers that come to the strip club even on their off nights and disguise themselves as the “regular women” per say, to the men at the club. And they’re really the ones that setup the after parties. Trying to make extra money while they’re off the clock. Basically, you let the guy know you’re down to do whatever somewhere outside of the club (can’t use the vip rooms off the clock). This can be anything and anywhere. Sex, a blowjob, whatever. Once again, I never had sex with a client, but it happens. It really is the norm in that lifestyle.

Then you have the “club babies”. I was definitely a club baby. We scope out the club and find the men that just LOOK like they have money or status or something. And we do whatever to make them happy. Even if he doesn’t want to dance, we PURPOSELY cling to him, get his drinks, just take care of you’re man the whole night girl. This has ALWAYS resulted in getting money out of their pockets by the end of the night. And a lot of strippers find their sugar daddies this way too. We just want to make as much money as fast as possible so we can get the hell out of there 😂 It really is a game for us.

All in all, I’m so thankful that I was a stripper because I saw a lot of things and it taught me a lot about men. Honestly, being a stripper helped me find a good man because I knew what NOT to look for in a partner. Another thing I want to say is, if you’re uncomfortable about your man going to a strip club then please voice yourself. And if he loves you he just won’t go. Damn, I mean, why pay us to dance on him when he can just buy you some lingerie, turn on some music, bring down the lights, and watch you dance? Hell, he can even throw money on you to really make him feel like he’s at the club 😂 You should be enough. And you are enough.

The main thing I want women to understand and take from this is that once your man steps into a strip club, he isn’t your man anymore, he’s our man. And we WILL do whatever because it’s just a game to the stripper. That’s brutal I know, but it’s the truth.