Too Much Hair.... HELP!


So a little off topic, but was wondering if anyone has a routine they use...

I have extremely thick, naturally curly (long now, so more wavy), frizzy hair. I was in the Army young for 5 years, and am extremely adjusted to buns, which my husband hates (I admit, it's not a fancy do). Anyone else have hair like this? I hate straightening, because it takes an hour, even blow drying (ugh). Are there any products beyond gel, that you use, that's quick? I have bought SO many hair products, and don't like the outcome! Give me your secrets 😬.