Is it okay?

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So this is a question because I'm concerned. My sister in law has a 2 month old and she just allows her to cry. Now for me that means baby needs something and I'm always quick to rescue her but she's always like "she's fine, let her cry" I've heard that it's okay to let your baby cry when they're like 6mo+ but your new born? You're basically ignoring their needs correct? She always just leaves both her girls in their soiled diapers and I'm the one that needs to change them and when I do then she says "you didn't have to do that" but if I don't change them she literally lets them stay in their dirty diapers all day long. Saying diapers are too expensive (which I know they are) but when your baby's diaper is full you change them. Her new born has diaper rashes on her bum now because she lays in her own shit. I just feel like she's neglecting her kids a little. Her 1 year old is even starting to call me mama now because I take care of her more than her own mother does... what do you ladies think? Comments?

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Id call cps she is clearly neglecting her kids there is absolutely no reason to let a child go all day in a dirty diaper and no that baby is crying for a reason she needs to go take care of her kids and stop being fucken lazy

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Tell her sister to get off her lazy ass and take care of her kids. If diapers are too expensive for her and she thinks leaving them in their own filth is a way of “saving money” discuss cloth diapers but then she’d had to do a load of laundry to clean them. If a 2 month old is screaming it’s for a reason not because she likes the sound of her voice.

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You need to consider the safety of the children. Is there a local children’s organization or church that you can go to for help and/or guidance? I understand calling CPS would cause you a lot of distress in your family but if the children are being neglected it’s your responsibility to advocate for them.

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it honestly depends. sometimes babies get fussy and letting them cry for a minute is actually okay. now letting them cry and cry and cry without checking to make sure they have everything they need is neglect. but you don't need to run over there every tome the kid let's out a cry.

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I have to say that allowing even a 2 month old to cry is ok - as long as all their needs are met. It sounds pretty obvious that this baby's needs aren't being met though. We started sleep training my daughter at only a few weeks which included letting her cry after we laid her down, however she was always dry and had just been fed and burped, etc. She just had to learn how to fall asleep on her own. If a baby is left to cry that is not having their needs met then that is not acceptable. I think she needs some professional assistance, which can be found in many forms and does not have to jump into cps. Check to find out if your county has any nurses that can come into the home and help with parenting advice and training. Many areas have well-child services that are offered for free and could be a place to start. She may just need to be educated on the amount of damage that can be done to her children if they are not looked after properly. Hearing that from someone other than you might be the best bet.

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