If anyone's ever lost the love of their life..

Cathrine
You understand why I'm here. Recently me and my boyfriend had a fight. It wasn't so much about us but about him and his depression. It's something that affects him every day, and he has trouble opening up about it.. But he came over and seemed to be okay. I didn't say hi because I was feeling sick to my stomach so I layed down for a while and then came into the living room to find him, I sat on the couch with one of our friends until he came back and he asked me if I was okay but he seemed kinda annoyed. He then left outside and I went after him and he was out there sitting on the curb and looked kind of sad, I approached him and he  seemed sad and wasn't saying much. It turned into a 2 hour long Conversation about how he felt I didn't understand his depression and how he didn't see hope to get better and how he didn't know happiness.. But he made me feel like I just didn't understand pain. He told me I didn't know pain just because he's been hell in his life. He questioned why I was with him and I eventually told him that he doesn't give me enough, but despite that I love him and stay with him. He said he was going to go home and I wouldn't let him because I  was scared of the state he would leave US in.. I cried and cried and he said that a few years from now I wouldn't remember this but it'd just be another high school relationship , in a few months I will be attending college but he told me to go home because honestly I was a wreck.. I tried to give him a hug but he wouldn't let me and that was really the first time that happened (we've been dating for a year) and I asked him if we are okay and he said "yeah but I'm not" I've tried texting him the past few days and the first time he asked me why I didn't tell him he doesn't give me enough, and I replied "because i felt you already knew" which I know is true, he knows he can't give me much right now, and he proceeded to get upset over me not telling him that he wasn't providing enough for me.. And I tried to tell him so many times before that I wanted him to be there for me more and just call once in a while you know? And he BARELY started to recently which I told him I acknowledged but the fact of the matter is , for a good chunk of time he abandon me while he was dealing with his own issues. I texted him the other night again and tried to just be honest with how I felt and offer a solution, to continue how we were doing before the fight because that's where I felt provided for .. But he never responded. It's been 2 days since I heard from him.. I KNOW that loving someone with depression is HARD, I knew exactly what I was getting. Myself into and he can't seem to accept someone would want to stay with someone of his issues but I'm going to be there for him and be that rock for him because I do love him, he's being selfish and he can't seem to see what he has... Any advice? Should I just let him come to me? Please , if anyone has abandonment issues with loss you know how scared I am feeling about this... (Side note , he's done this before where we will have a big fight and he woulnt talk to me for a day to a few days but always comes back in some way)