Let’s just cut to the chase...

So I’m going to be very blunt and straightforward... I have an ingrown hair on my butthole. I’ve tried to pop it but I can’t see it, it hurts like hell, and it just won’t pop. What the heck do I do??? My fiancé likes to do a little butt stuff (we are just starting to do it because my comfort zone is this 👌🏼 big lol) so I want to get rid of it fast (it’s been there for like 3 weeks but he’s coming home for the first time in a month because of work). So again what the heck do I do??????