Have you ever sabotaged a relationship out of fear?

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Yes. All through my late teens and early twenties. I was a serial dater because getting close to someone frightened me! Vulnerability has always been a scary thing to me.

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Almost. About 6months into my current relationship I started having a LOT of anxiety about my boyfriend. My dad didn't help this  when (on my birthday no less) he yelled at me that he didn't like my boyfriend one bit and didn't know what I saw in him. I love my dad and this was a HUGE blow. I was afraid I was making the wrong choice and so that was almost the end of my relationship with my boyfriend. I told him we needed to take a break. I then proceeded to have what can really only be described as an adult temper tantrum (by myself) about how I didn't want to let go. I kicked  and a screamed and  cried in my living room and realized that I did not want to and could not break up with him

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Ah just did this. The guy I was recently talking to wanted more, I got scared and told him I got a bad vibe from him and broke it off.. 😔🤷🏽‍♀️

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Yes. I did that for the beginning of the relationship I’m in now. I would purposely do things that I knew would piss him off. I never cheated, though. I would be a complete bitch to him. I really did not deserve his love and dedication at all. I was emotionally abusing and manipulative. He stuck with me, though he shouldn’t have. If you have fears, explain those fears. If they’re super bad and you can’t resist sabotaging, maybe you’re not in the best place to be in a relationship that requires commitment. I got lucky because my husband knew I had a messed up childhood and couldn’t trust him all the way. I was so afraid he’d leave me that I wanted to indirectly make that choice for him, but that’s silly. Honesty and treating each other with love and respect fosters a healthy relationship. If it doesn’t end up working out, then it just is what it is. There will be another person out there.

Have you ever sabotaged a relationship out of fear?

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