so frustrated

My partner and I have two beautiful children ages two years and youngest is 4 months. My partner admitted to me he wanks every morning in shower before work, I'm okay with it if it doesn't effect us.Lately I have been so sexually frustrated and been wanting it so bad so we have had sex two nights in a row and I still feel like it. I have started pt lessons and been feeling so good and really pretty if that's not cheesy. Before I asked him if he wants to have a shower with me tonight when kids are in bed and he said all you worry about is getting fucked. It really got to me so I went to the room, I felt like going out there saying yes I have had sex with u twice this week but every other time it's once a fortnight but you wabk every morning so how is it me in the wrong here. am I over reacting, he isn't the effection type and I think that's all I want :(