helpp

so I understand all vaginas are different but like my inner lips of my vagina hang out of the outer lips, and like I feel like when guys finger girls who's inner lips stay INSIDE their vaginas it's like better for them? I legit don't want the guy I like to not be able to find his way into my vagina in the case we end up that serious to do stuff. Like am I the only one extremely self conscious of their vagina?