Am I overreacting by being upset that my husband refuses to have sex with me?

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Hi, 
I’m married almost a year now... we didn’t have sex before marriage, so it’s been a lot of figuring out what I like. 
I like to receive oral, he hates giving it... its frustrating but I understand and he’s only done it a few times total. 
Now, he doesn’t even want to have regulars sex with me. Even if I initiate, or offer to do what he likes, I still get turned down.
I’ve talked to him about it, bottom line, I don’t keno what to do. Am I making a big deal over nothing?

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This is why I'm not for waiting. You'll never know what you're into or your partner is into, and now you're married and incompatible in the bedroom (it seems). All you can do now is try to talk it out and make sure both of your needs are being met. I wish you the vast of luck, truly.

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He might just not have a sex drive. It could just be how he is, or it can indicate a problem medically. But not all guys are sex crazy like a lot of people believe.

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That’s why I didn’t wait. You guys aren’t compatible.

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This is the perfect example of why I don’t think it’s a good idea to wait for marriage. Two people who are commuting their lives to each other but are completely incompatible sexually. Did you two wait totally or just wait for each other? Meaning were you guys both virgins or did you have sex prior with other partners and then met each other and decided to wait in your relationship? 
You guys don’t know what you like yourselves or what each other likes. PRACTICEEEEEE. I think he’s just comfy with the relationship yous had before sex and because he’s so used to it he feels like if y’all survived before without sex that it’s no big deal now.

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I highly encourage you guys read Come As You Are, by Emily Nagoski. She breaks down what influences why we want or don't want sex, and addresses problems she (as a sex educator) is often asked about. It's really helpful and explanatory. It has a few fictional couple scenarios that might be useful for your circumstance.

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No. That's a deal breaker 
Have a serious conversation with him about how 'not okay' it is

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I meant No you are not overreacting! I deleted yes that you should be mad lol

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That’s so weird what was his reason when you talked to him? You’re not overreacting at all

Am I overreacting by being upset that my husband refuses to have sex with me?

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