My husband works really hard and pulls 14-16 hours a day in an unaircondited/unheated shop doing manual labor all day. Yes his day is hard and he only wants to relax when he gets home. I understand that. But whenever I ask him to do anything he gets really mad and tell me to stop nagging him. I ask him to do the things I can't, like get something from really high up, or change the light bulbs or the trash. I can do these things but it is so much easier for him and the baby gets mad when I start a task that really needs to be done, it's like he knows and that's when he wants me! lol But we live with my in laws at the moment and his father is home all day every day. His mother works and everyday when she gets home she bitches about the house being dirty. I try to keep the dishes caught up buts hard when I am the ONLY one who brings my dish to the sink and rinse it off. I try to put all the baby's things back in its spot when I'm done and his clothes in the hamper and diapers in the pail but once in a while that doesn't happen and it gets left on the table. He has his 4 toys in the living room area: his swing, bouncer, Rock n play and baby rocking horse. He uses these toys every single day in our routine, he is 23 weeks old btw. She is getting mad that there is no "room" to move around and we need to condense this but that's not going to happen when I use these things every day . Anyways most of the mess comes from her tossing her mail down on every table in the house and not going threw it. She also brings home a lot of junk almost every day. How am I supposed to clean her junk up? where does this crap go. My husband keeps telling me I need to make sure that dishes are done. I need to make sure everything is picked up. I am home all day and don't work so I have plenty of time to clean and I need to stop sitting around all day. He doesn't hold the baby more than 10 minutes a day so he has no idea what I do. I breast feed so he never feeds him, never changes a diaper unless it's a blue moon and then he's pissed about it, he has never put the baby to bed or helped with a bath. I do everything by myself so he has no idea what I do except sit on my ass and let the baby suck on my boob. I'm getting fed up of him telling me I don't work and when I tell him I do work 24/7 without a break he says well it's not as hard as my job. I wish he could stay home for a few days or a week and take care of the baby all by himself and see how of that will make him change his point of view. I absolutely love being a SAHM and don't want to go back to work when I am able to do this , I just wish my husband could understand . anyone else been in this position?