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So my boyfriend and I have been arguing a lot lately. He works a lot because his restaurant is understaffed. I’m pregnant and need his help and support. We’re both cranky and feel like our needs aren’t getting met.

Well one day about a month ago he took a day off to be with me. I thought it was a great gesture and we relaxed, went out to eat and just enjoyed each other’s company while shopping online for nursery stuff. It was perfect.

Until he went into the guest room bathroom for about 30 minutes with his laptop. I’m thinking, hmmm this is weird. He comes out and says his job called and he has to go in. So I get kinda upset but figure we spent the whole day together so whatever.

It was about 10:00 so I called him to ask him to put an order in for me and bring it when he comes home (he works at a restaurant and the kitchen closes at 11.) The restaurant turns into a nightclub from 11-3am and he helps with security some nights.

He didn’t answer. So I called the restaurant and they said “he’s off today and we haven’t asked him to come in.” So I go from calm to bat shit crazy in half a second.

So I’m thinking oh hell no where is he?

So I grab the laptop and look at what he was looking at. It was gay porn. Then he made a craigslist post saying he was looking for m4m to give him head and in exchange he would touch theirs.

So I totally understand that humans are sexual beings or whatever and a part of loving someone is accepting who they are.

But ummmm

No.

So I called him and told him to come home. He actually said ok. He came home. He had been gone for about 45 minutes.

I didn’t bring up the post that night, he didn’t try to have sex with me either.

The next day I “stumbled upon the open tab on the laptop.” He said it was a prank by one of his coworkers. I tried to talk to him about it. But he got annoyed and refused. If you’re curious okay, I can try to understand but if your curious and gonna lie about it. I can’t trust you.