Busy boyfriend

Hey friends! Looking for some mature advice.

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year. For the beginning of our relationship we both had boring desk jobs and communicated throughout most of the day in addition to spending most of our free time together. About half way in, I got a new job and we stopped communicating at work and still spent a good amount of time together.

In October he started a medical program with a VERY hefty commute and has become totally exhausted already. He doesn’t text me, rarely wants to talk on the phone (when he used to initiate calls), and when we do see each other (weekends only), he usually wants to cut things short.

I LOVE him, support him and am SO happy for him. However a few things are messing with my head:

1. I’ve always been the super busy one in relationships, so this flip flop is weird.

2. The level of communication changed so abruptly.

3. In his last long-term relationship, he said that for the last year they didn’t talk much (worried this could be a similar pattern)

4. He’s not verbally affectionate to begin with, so if we don’t see each other for a few days he won’t say he misses me or anything- which is tough on me to begin with.

So, in all seriousness- y’all have any suggestions on how I can support him from afar? I want him to know how happy I am for him and support his hard work while respecting the space he needs to focus.