I feel like a bad mom. help?

Question

My LO is 11 months old now. When she was younger I was able to rock her to sleep with no problem. When she started teething I had to comfort nurse her to sleep and now she can't fall asleep without nursing (if I try to just rock her now she cries hysterically). I plan to stop breastfeeding at 1 year. She has been cosleeping with us forever and the times I do get her in her crib, when she wakes up she's terrified. My SO loves that she cosleeps and so do I but I miss my spot on the bed. My SO said she can sleep there forever if she wanted but he's not loosing his spot. She clings to me, I'm the one curling up toward the foot of the bed as to not accidentally wake her when I roll over. We  tried the "cry it out" method but it made me emotionally sick to my stomach (she screamed for half an hour with no stop before I couldn't take it anymore). I guess I'm just asking for some help with getting her to fall asleep without nursing from me and how to help her not to need to be in our bed? Is anyone else in the same boat or was, and fixed their issues?

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What's your bedtime routine ?

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Something I do with my daughter as she has been fighting sleep (I think because of teething) is when she starts crying and fussing because I'm holding her the sleep position lol is to just sit her up with my arm around her, her with her binky and blanky and just let her sit with me! usually within a few mins or so she will fall asleep and than I can put her n her bed. Now sometimes she does still fight it. Hope this helps in any way! Good Luck!

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We coslept from 3-11 months. my son would scream at the top of his lungs with tears running down his face if I put him in his crib. I tried doing the cry it out in intervals method but that didn't work and it made me feel awful. then I decided we would get a bedtime routine and I would lay him in bed. the first night he cried and screamed but I never left his side. I rubbed his back, kissed, and hugged him without taking him from the crib. the second night he only fussed a little, but still I never left until he was sound asleep. By the third night he didn't cry or fuss, but I have to stay by his crib until he falls asleep. we are on night #6 and each night gets better and quicker! good luck!

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you're going to have to start by putting her in her own crib, even if she wakes up nurse her back to sleep and put her back in the crib. after a while she will get the idea that she sleeps there, also make sure she is napping in her crib too. It's going to be hard to get up and nurse her back to sleep but after awhile she will sleep through the night don't worry. I didn't do cry it out with my daughter and she sleeps No problem all night in her crib.

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I co slept until 10months, after that long with not much sleep, because with him next to me neither of us were really getting the best sleep, I decided to do the "cry it out."  Yes, the first night was terrible, he cried for almost an hour, I tried going in in intervals to pat his back but after 15minutes of that, it was only making it worse, me going in and out, so I just turned on the monitor and sat in my room watching him.  He cried for 45minutes then fell asleep.  He did wake up again in the middle of the night and we did it all over again.  Day 2 he cried for about 30minutes then each day after it was less and less.  Now a month later I just lay him down and he goes to bed on his own.  Make a routine so baby knows its bedtime.  We sit in his room, read a book or two, then sing some songs, then he goes down.  Its about a 15min routine.  He sleeps from 8pm to 6am.  It took us about a week of crying it out and waking up in the middle of the night and crying it out then but you have to just stand your ground, dont go in there and pick baby up, you will only reset all of your work if you do that.  If baby cries for more than an hour then I would try again the next night but it never got to that point for us.  Good luck, you need sleep, trust me, I was once you!

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Try doing it in phases? I would work on the co sleeping thing first so she has that comfort of nursing while transitioning into her own bed.

I feel like a bad mom. help?

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