I dumped my BFF after my wedding

Fast forward - I ask her to be my maid of honor at my wedding.

I know bridesmaids/ maid of honors are not obligated to "work" for the bride or do anything other than show up to the wedding and rehearsal with dress and shoes.

However, I expected some sort of BFF involvement. Here are my qualms:

I asked her to use my hair and make up artist who was friends of the other bridesmaid (inexpensive and great work). She proceeds to tell me she will bring her own make up and do her hair. And wants flowers in her hair. Mind you, this is a City wedding at a 4 star hotel, not an outdoor beach wedding.

When the MOH and bridesmaid came to help me find my dress, I picked on and MOH sent me wrong pictures of the other dress I was also interested in. That made me freak out and have buyers remorse. How could she seriously send me pics of the completely different dress I didn't order?

She was 45 minutes late to my first dress fitting. I was so sad. I had no one else there. My mom was in the Caribbean .

1 month before my wedding date she announces to me that she's bringing me and the other bridesmaid for my bachelorette and I need my passport for it (passport wasn't a problem I had been traveling out of the country recently so o had an active one). She tells me the dates she booked were 5 days before my wedding date. Other bridesmaid accidentally told me we were going to the Caribbean.  I confronted the MOH that I was nervous about traveling anywhere so close to the date. She proceeded to bark at me YOURE GOING ON THE TRIP. I AM NOT CANCELLING. I was calm and told her there are other options to either reschedule or worst case have someone go in my place. She ended up cancelling the trip because of the hurricanes earlier in September.

She texted me 3 weeks before wedding saying she wanted to throw a bridal shower for me at my moms who happens to live on a lake locally to us. That was fine ... I told her to call my mom and coordinate it. I gave my mom a heads up. As the date was approaching my mom indicated she did not hear from MOH. My mom called MOH and set it up. The bridal shower consisted of copious amounts of meat chicken to grill for only 2 people invited ?? The 2 people who came were MOH and bridesmaid- why wasn't anyone else invited ? It was very awkward and my mom made a comment that she thought MOH would have brought the food already prepared but had my step father grill it (no big deal). Before going to my moms MOH insisted we all leave from her apartment to my moms. I show up in a really cute dress and MOH is in sweat pants not ready to go. I proceeded to sit on her couch and watch tv as she slowly got ready. I then said my mom is expecting us so we should leave. MOH said she still had to go to the store to get the meat. I said ok cool I'll meet you at my moms. It wasn't a bridal shower and I felt sad. I didn't ask for a bridal shower but if someone offers - do it right , right ! Bridesmaid told me she had to pay for all the food bc MOH didn't have money. I felt so bad!

Rehearsal dinner - MOH orders hundreds of dollars worth of food. We were at a really nice restaurant but you would think someone would have courtesy and order modestly. Our bill came out to 1,000 dollars

For the dinner that consisted of about 14 people. 

Wedding day: MOH orders over 100 dollars of room service to my bridal suite (of course it will be on my room bill). No means was I ever being my "bridezilla" I was actually very calm during the day. She did not once ever ask me if I needed anything or help. The best man's wife who came out of town was more help than her. Also the make up artist and hair girl was helping too! Bridesmaid was starting to feel sick but during my planning she was so helpful in finding my photographer and hair and makeup.

We go to do first look photos - MOH is not watching my dress , thankfully she came to the last dress fitting to learn to bustle the train. During first look the bottom of my dress got dirty. My husband told her when we get back to the hotel to get club soda - she ended up not being able to find it and my husband went and got it for her.

Ceremony - she gave one of the readings which she spoke really well. She did not fix my train at all to make it look the way it was shown at the last fitting. 

During pictures with family members and people I listed I wanted specific pics with - she did not help fend off other people crowding me to take pics )guests didn't understand that there was a list. MOH was no where to be found / she just wanted to smoke her cigarettes 

Reception - grand entrance - before we made the entrance she stepped on my dress and I heard a RIIIIPPPP - she accidentally ripped the bustle. I asked her - sarah do you have the emergency kit that I needed with the safety pins? MOH says no. My wedding coordinator had to run and get the safety pins. MOH proceeds to try to re bustle the best she could. For 5 minutes she's down there and I finally ask "what's goin on down there?!" She just couldn't pin it. Asked wedding coordinator and she got down on her hands and knees and fixed the best she could. 

During dinner and dancing everything was great. Despite what happened throughout the day I let everything go ! Our wedding was awesome and everyone had a wonderful time.

The morning after - I go to her hotel room to thank her and chit chat - everything was fine. We talked about how beautiful and fun the wedding was.

I then go on my honeymoon. After honeymoon MOH asks to hang out because she got an awesome hotel suite at one of the nice hotels downtown with a table and bottle service. I honestly didn't want to go but I said yes bc I still wanna hang out with my girls !

This is where things got dark ... we are having a great time talking with other friends having fun. The bar closes down and a group of 5 of us go back to the room... we're having fun - her brother was actually there and I was talking with him a lot telling him how great he looked and thanking him for joining on our special day!

Then... and mind you people were drinking but not out of their minds - this guy friend of hers which I didn't know but we had been chatting friendly the whole night - he accuses me of taking his 300 dollars in cash! And I'm like hey hey hold up I didn't see any cash nor do I have cash.

The guy starts to really get upset about his money and I'm like dude I don't have it! He kept on me saying I took it and that's when I FLIPPED MY SHIT! I began a tirade screaming and yelling that I didn't take it and asking my friends why they aren't sticking up for me ?! I'm surprised hotel security didn't come. 

The guy even threw a 1 dollar bill at my face. I retained the urge to punch the fuck out of him. 

Another girl who I was friendly with earlier in the night said out loud "you are crazy". Well yep, that set me off even more and I proceeded to yell and demand these people leave the room. 

They leave. 

Here's the kicker to the story - MOH comes back after 10 minutes (the bridesmaid had me in another part of the room trying to calm me down and saying she doesn't think I stole)

MOH announces that she had the cash in her bra and she didn't know how it got there. WTF !?

I was like wow... and I just said I need to go home and I got a cab and went home. 

Next day I told her how fucked up her friends were and that they owe me an apology. She kept saying yeah they do it is fucked up. Not

Once did she apologize to me.

I said I needed my makeup I left at the room and when we met up for her to give it to me - I took my stuff and then told her "I am never speaking to you again"

She shrugged her shoulders and I stormed off. I haven't talked to her in a month and a half.

Was it worth ending that long friendship I had with her? I just couldn't stand the fact that I was accused of being a thief, friends didn't stick up for me, and the laziness she had during my wedding   When she always announces to everyone that I am her BEST FRIEND.

It's fucked up.