Sex only when I️ say

So I️ have an ex and we both have come to the conclusion after a long three years no matter what friends or partners it just isn’t going to work we both still love each other but it’s understood mutually we tried the friends with benefits before too but I️ always secretly hope it would bring us closer…This isn’t that situation I️ want to have sex with him because I️ don’t wanna give myself to any other man right now but I️ only want sex when I️ decide on my terms not when he wants, is that okay ?