I think this may be border line verbal abuse:/

So my husband has just been plain mean lately and he gets like that when he is talking to his ex and he gets abusive verbally and physically well it takes him an hour to get home from work he gets off at 5 pm well today he got home at 7 and I told him his story and picture to when I called him aren't adding up at all and then I say I can't stand liars and cheater and well he hasnt stoped calling me names even when I've been asking him to come help with our 16 day old baby whom he hasn't really helped with he has feed and changed her twice since she got to come home which he had help so really he didn't do anything!! here are a few of the messages is the borderline abuse? And he has said alot alot more, like how I'm a fat lazy piece of shit cause I sit on my ass all day which I haven't been away from my daughter for more then 25 mins!