Are depressed people who never want help toxic?

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I have to stop talking to one of my friends because she’s very depressed all the time. I’ve offered her so much help to the point where it’s draining. She always says “I don’t want to fix my problems.” But then everyday something new happens to her for her to depressed. Always easy fixes too. And it drains me cause she wants me to agree with her and support her without giving advice on how to fix it. It drains me that she doesn’t want to better herself. What do you guys think? If you’re like my friend what is it you want?

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Anyone can be toxic for someone for any reason.

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I know my mental health is all over the place but I’m that person who refuses to see a doctor, when I know I should. Even thinking about talking to a doctor about my problems and how I feel makes me feel like a panic attack is coming on. I overthink things to the point I literally feel sick. I try my best not to talk about it because I’m afraid of becoming *that* friend that always complains and makes everybody else miserable because of it. I do talk about it to my boyfriend though, and I think he’s getting tired of it to be honest. I don’t exactly have any great advice because I’m a mess at the moment but if you feel drained because of your friend maybe it’s time to be honest with her about it. If you want to spend time apart from her don’t feel bad, you’ve got to worry about your own mental health too.

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If hanging out with her is draining to you and is causing you to be miserable - then yes, she is toxic. 
I have an aunt who is similar. I don't see her that often, but when I do, I just know not to suggest anything to help - she doesn't want that. I just say "uh huh", "that's too bad," etc, while she complains about her life that she is choosing not to do anything about. And that's really how you have to look at it - maybe it's massive depression that's preventing her from acting, but it could also be that being miserable has become its own weird form of happiness for her. Sometimes, people are more terrified of facing fixing their problems and facing what they're lives look like without them, than they are of just living on in a misery that they know very well.

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Would we be asking whether someone who has cancer but doesn't get treatment is toxic? No. What's with all the judgmental posts about mental health? It's no surprise that people don't want a diagnosis for mental illness when there's so much judgement about it. I struggle myself and having had medical professionals call me a baby because of my phobias and in other cases have a total lack of understanding I can see why people don't seek help. We don't always want advice, we just want someone to support us and tell us they're there for us. I get that people want to fix the problem, but hearing me out when I try to explain my feelings is more helpful than saying 'see a doctor'

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Some of the major problems with depression in that it can lead a person to believe that they don’t deserve help, or that they are beyond help, or that they won’t be taken seriously if they do seek help. Maybe your friend doesn’t need you to try to “fix” her but just needs you to listen.

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If you feel as though your friendship may be toxic, you have the right to walk away from that relationship. You're not responsible for her and her well being. She's gotta want help.

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Gotta protect your own energy. Just tell her you’ll be there if she needs help but you can’t continue to be dragged down.

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I don’t think in general, no. I know people who are like that who aren’t particularly toxic. Anyone can be toxic, someone who isn’t depressed can be toxic and so can someone who is depressed and getting help. Her not getting help doesn’t mean she has to bring you down with her though, if someone is making you suffer even if unintentionally you have every right to distance yourself from that person

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I have a friend like this. He has bad depression and anxiety. He knows he has it but refuses to get help. It’s draining but I’m afraid what would happen to him without me :/

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Completely depends on the situation. I know if i were any of my friends i wouldn't want to be around me. Luckily im finally seeking help.

Are depressed people who never want help toxic?

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