HELP ME!

My boyfriend and I️ had been together for over a year. He grew up in a family where his mom died when he was young and his dad was physically abusive at times and not really there for him. He spent most of his time with his grandparents.

I️ on the other hand have a very very close family. We talk everyday and tell each other everything. My boyfriend started becoming very rude to my family. My family would open their arms for any one but he acted like he didn’t want it and was rude.

After the summer he moved in with my in my apartment with my sister, he didn’t have a steady job and took money from me all the time. He would sometimes pay back but not often. He has called me names and told me to shut the fuck up before. He has a temper and it gets out of control at times. My sister did not like the way he was talking to me. She told my mom because we tell each other everything and my parents were not happy either. After a couple months we ended up breaking up due to him dropping a box of my glass stuff on purpose because he was mad he thought my sister said something about him when all she said was something about my car. I️ told him to leave at that point. He went for a walk then came back into the apartment and started making food like nothing happened. My sister and I️ left and were waiting for him to. He kept texting me saying come back and cuddle me, we will figure this out. I️ didn’t go to him. He eventually came and got his stuff over the weekend. Well he smoothed talked his way back into my life and we started dating again, against my parents wishes. They stopped helping he financially with a few things because they didn’t like him that much.

Now 2 months later I️ unexpectedly got pregnant. I️ talked to him about having to go tell my parents together. He didn’t want to but came there. My mom got home and we told her. My dad had meetings and wouldn’t be home till late and he decided to just leave so I️ was there alone to tell my dad. My dad was not happy when he got there and I️ told him that the guy who got me pregnant couldn’t even be there to tell him. Which is a pretty big thing. So I️ texted him and asked him to come back, he refused said he couldn’t. So I️ asked him if he would the next day. He told me no and said if you ask again we are 100% done, stop choosing your parents over me. Well I️ drove to his place the next day and was begging him to come over, saying do this for me and the baby. He kept refusing. He tried kissing and saying just come cuddle we can do that later. This meant so much to me for him to come there. He kept saying no and calling my parents very mean names, he said if he went over there he was going to grab my dad by his throat and beat him up. He said they can come to me and apologize for the last time but they never did anything. He blames them for us breaking up the first time when it was all him. He never thinks he does anything wrong.

I️ was bawling at this point and I️ told him I️ am leaving if you can’t do this for me. He took a pillow and liked flicked it in my face. So I️ left, called my sister and he texted me saying you better answer my phone calls or it won’t be good when I️ show up at the house. He decided to come after I️ had already left.. he got to the house and his whole voice and attitude changed it was like I’m sorry, I’ll do better blah blah after he was just talking crap about them to me. He told me to go home with him and cuddle him, I️ stayed with my parents and haven’t texted him back since. My family thinks it’s best to end it that isn’t healthy for me and the baby but idk what to do. He’s trying to smooth talk his way back again but I️ feel like this will just keep happening.