Am I wrong????

Question

So a while back I had seen messages in my bfs phone to his best friend about a girl at work “wanting his dick” & him saying her ass is fat & what not. It was while we were unofficial so I moved on from it & let it go. Well he had a Christmas party for work today & last night out of curiosity & conversation I asked who he got & he said he got his doctor he works with. Well today after his party I had asked again after he told me how the dinner was & he admitted he lied & got the coworker. So automatically I was pissed bc he lied. It makes the situation look shady by lying but he seems to think I’m being dramatic & getting mad over something so small. But to me, a lie is a lie & regardless of if he would get mad or not about something I told him, I still wouldn’t lie bc I simply just feel like that’s shady. So am I being crazy or am I right? I need opinions

Answer

Trust your gut. There are huge red flags here, and you're smart enough to see them. Don't let him try and downplay this. You need to ask him questions and catch him lying, and straight out tell him that you won't stand for cheating or entertaining other women.

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I had a similar experience.......  
So before my bf and I even met he had a one night stand with a friend. 
Then we met started talking and started hanging out , then one night we decide to go out as a group and that “friend” ( lets name her betty) came along . Before i got to met her , he told me ohh just a heads up she likes attention  i was like “ aaannnnndddddddd!!??”

He then said oh no just thought you should know. So after the club we decided to go over to a friends house and continue to have a good time . Well we were still drinking talking and playing poker all in a table . My bf ( at that time not my bf) said something very flirtatious to me ( mind you we keep it very low key , my decision, for a while ) well betty then said “ your gf would like that “ i then looked at him shocked and asked him “wait you have a gf!?? “He said “no I don’t betty is crazy “ YES! In front of her . So after that i kinda had a gut about that “friendship” well the betty girl decided to become my friend . Mind you i did not know about the one night stand they had before i came in the picture so i said why not she’s chill

Well this girl had the fucken gut to become my “friend “ she would tell me all her babydaddy problems and i would help her a lot . Well long story short . I was on a call with her when she then randomly told me about the thing they had before me . ( yea yea , i also think if it wasn’t my time why bother) but what pissed me off is my bf told me about everyone else except her .... he also told her not to tell me anything because i was going to be around for a while and didn’t want me to get mad . I always had a gut that there was something there because he act slightly different around her . AND!!!! She would ask me very personal questions about our relationship. My bf and I stopped talking to her ........ she told me she didn’t want to lose me as a friend and that she swears on her kids nothing happened after that one night but the fact they kept it away for almost an yr hurts me . And more because every single person from our group knew EXCEPT ME!!!!

Yes i stayed with him because i mean he’s already there , he didn’t cheat or anything, and i kinda don’t want to start over in that whole dating thing

Answer

so he belittled this girl but then did stuff with her anyway? do you see the issue here?

Am I wrong????

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