Moving forward UPDATED

I've been reading the super helpful posts on here and hoping to find one that would be similar to my situation, decided to post to see if you could help me figure out my options.

Long story short: I've been doing extensive training for my career and put my family on hold because I knew it would not be realistic to start while on solo assignments for 7 months in Asia and Africa. I dated here and there, but never with any type of commitment. When I finished training, I turned 33 and gave myself a 5 year plan to find a loving man, get married and have a child...super realistic, right?

Well, it's been more tricky.

I moved to a new state where I don't know anyone, started a new job and miraculously ran into a really kind, thoughtful, slightly geeky guy of my dreams. we met a year and a half ago. trouble is that we are the same age and he is still into games, exploring relationships and finding stability in his career and not ready to settle. I feel bad rushing him, so I haven't, but I have brought up my 5 year plan with him recently for full disclosure. in 2 weeks I turn 36 and all I want to do is cry. I know there is no perfect time, but a year and a half ago was when my maternal instinct kicked in and it is stronger than my willpower!

I am left thinking two options: if he is not ready in another 6 months, call it quits and look for donors to have a child on my own, or start looking now (which seems a bit dishonest before we even tried).

what would you do? how do you have THIS type of relationship talk?

update: thank you for commenting. we sat down to talk yesterday, and it was clear to me the whole child thing is making him panic and have anxiety attacks. I told him that the whole kid thing is off the table so that he feels more comfortable, but I told him if he is not sure about our relationship either, then it's best we go our separate ways. if he needs to date more to figure out what he wants, I will not hold him back.

we hugged and said goodbye. I am trying to stay strong, I feel invested in this relationship, but if he doesn't, then it doesn't make sense. my brain is happy but my heart is miserable. there is no going back...and I don't know what's right anymore.

UPDATE:

well, it's been a minute from the last few discussions we've had. 6 months!

I am near losing my mind because at this point, all of my colleagues are honking he should be proposing, and

moving on.he did basically move in with me +slow takeover a drawer, slow transfer of various kitchen things.....

seriously, I often wonder if he is just trying to skip the engagement part.

we are going on an international trip

(going home for me) which means meeting all my past friends and extended family. I've already met most of his family and almost all of his friends in the past couple of months. only one friend remains, whom he hasn't bothered to introduce me to for almost 2 years and now suddenly before a big trip he decides I have to meet this friend or else.