Help please!!

Any of you ladies know how to get it where you're not always the one initiating sex? My husband and I have been together for 5 years. We used to have a great sex life but the past few months have just been dry! I'm always initiating and I get rejected almost everytime! In the past month alone, we have had sex 3 times, I initiated every time and the only way he seemed remotely interested was if I agreed to go down on him (which he would tell me that we'd actually have sex after I did it for a bit but then he'd just ask me to finish him off that way) or he got to do anal. I don't really get anything out of either of those. Only he does. I need some loving too!!