Friends With Benefits??

Arielle

i’m confused about this. there’s this guy in my life right now and he’s pretty fantastic. we’ve been friends for almost 4 years now and we’d always talk every now and then. but for the past 8 months, we’ve been spending lots and lots of time together. we have casual sex at least once a week. on average, we spend 3-4 nights together in a week. when we’re out in public, we’ll hold hands, he’ll put his arm around me whenever we’re sitting somewhere, we do cute couple things. but we’re not dating. we’ve had the convo what feels like a million times and it always has the same result. i want to date and he wants to not date. i’d be fine with not dating but we do so many things together which only makes me like him more. if he doesn’t want to date me, why does he act like we’re together when we’re in public? if he doesn’t wanna date me, whyd he go ahead and kiss me first all those months ago? and continue to show his affection towards me?