What to expect first time?

Question

I've been dating a boy for a while now and we're just starting to seriously discuss sex. We're both virgins so we're fairly clueless, I was wondering what should I realistically expect? Like pain? Bleeding?

Answer

Here is a list of things to expect and then after that I’ll explain how my first time went down.. 
1. He may not be able to find your “hole” the easiest. TMI but if he accidentally puts it into your bum, just assure him it’s okay and tend to his insecurities. He’ll be extremely nervous too. Maybe just gently guide with his hips or carefully guide his penis into the right spot. (He’ll probably slip out many times). 
2. You may think he’s “too big”; this is generally what women relate the pains of the first time to. So the pain could be from a). you aren’t well lubricated: Solve that with lube. b). You’re vagina isn’t “loose” enough, this typically comes from not being aroused enough: solve that by foreplay, have him finger you before you actually have sex. c). He’s too deep; the vagina stretches when a penis is inserted and some vaginas just stretch less than others so I don’t have a solution for that. (Ex. My boyfriend is 9” and I can take all of it, no problem. My besties boyfriend is 6” and she says he can fit it all, but it goes too deep for her body.) 
3. You may bleed. Now we aren’t actually supposed to bleed during sex, that comes from our bodies not being aroused enough or wet enough: it causes tearing. Another option, if he fingers you and accidentally cuts you with his nails then the sex may tear it more and make the bleeding noticeable. 
4. You may feel a bit insecure being that you’ll probably be completely naked. Just remember that he’s probably just as insecure and that he loves you not matter what. After a few times having sex you won’t feel insecure anymore. 
5. It might be awkward. It’s new to the both of you and you’re experiencing a bunch of new sensations and etc. So just talk through it if you must and try to make sure he’s comfortable. 
6. Not everyone makes noises. Some people moan, some scream, some are completely silent. The response doesn’t conclude wether they are enjoying themselves or not. (I’m a moaner, my boyfriend just breathes heavy). 
7. He most likely doesn’t care if you’re well-shaved or not. My man didn’t even notice. When we first had sex I had “a bush” and the second time, I had shaved it all off and he didn’t even notice. (I asked him alter). 
I can’t think of anymore really. These should give you a good heads up. I knew all these points ahead of time and they all flew out my head when I actually have my first time. 
Here’s my first time (TMI sorry) 
When my man and I first had sex, we had been playing a teasing game so our clothes were already off. He got super hard and we were jokingly asking each other if “it would fit”. After a few minutes, I promised him it would fit (even tho I didn’t know). So I was laying under him and he was on all fours above me kissing me and teasing me and asking this question right. Then in a half-serious, half-joking voice, I said “what if you try it?” He responded half-serious, half-joking, “what if I did?” So he’s looking me straight in the eyes and in a seriousness says, “I’m actually curious. Will it fit?” I told him to try it. (I’m on birth control and we didn’t have a condom 🙁) anyway, so we didn’t have any physical foreplay, but we had enough teasing back and fourth that I was super aroused. He looked me dead in the eyes, and slipped it in me. He did two thrusts and like rotated his hips or something and then slowly started to pull out. (I felt terrible for this later but...) He says my eyes got really big when I realized he was taking it out, then I threw my hands up and pulled his hips back to me. I kinda whispered, “not yet, please?”, I was hinting that I didn’t want him to stop and he understood that. He starts thrusting softly and kissing my neck and God damn that was hottttt. I think it took him about 30 minutes to finish and then he pulls out and came on my stomach. 😝 I don’t like when he does that, but ehh. 
But yeah, so my first time I didn’t have any physical foreplay, I didn’t have any bleeding and I didn’t have any pain. 
Good luck of your first time sweetie.

Answer

Yes a bit of pain at first but it should go away and also a bit of bleeding but that also depends it doesn't always bleed also recommend plenty of foreplay

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