So I am 28 soon to be 29. I left my 11 year toXic ass relationship like 3 years ago. (I had my hoe phase). I am well into my career and have grown a lot. If anything I would say I have bloomed in some is of men that show you one way and then when I let down my wall things go south. Like This guy i super started to fall for....he tells me he could not do it with me anymore because he was so afriad of how much he loved me and that, it would mean he would be married soon and he does not want that. Ladies I was confused he explained to me how Nigerian culture and I expressed to him that I was with someone for 11 years i am not in a. rush for anything. . but i let it go. I am one of the most understanding women I know but I also wont take anymore bullshit. fast forward this new guy is moving to SC in like a month. I am back to being depressed again and hopeless. I feel like my 11 years shielded me from dating crap. Help me ladies is this what its like??? I am so close to giving up.