I’m not sure if this is the right place to post this because it is about parenting, just not mine. I grew up with a mom who constantly called herself fat, disgusting, always tried to be super careful of what she eats. I remember a few times i had to sit in my kitchen watching her bawl her eyes out curled up in a ball, on the floor. My dad was abusive to her & my sister & i so i guess that’s where s lot of her insecurities come from. It definitely effected my sister and now she constantly puts herself down. But for me, it really damaged me watching and hearing this stuff growing up. I ended up developing an eating disorder and body dysmorphia. I used to sit in my bathroom and try to rip every extra piece of skin off that i had, i would go days without eating real food, i would spend every single second possible working out. Luckily once i reached 18 i started getting over the insecurities i had, i stopped caring because i realized life is too short to be miserable about Who you are. I just had a baby and my mom constantly feels the need to point out my stretch marks, especially when i was still pregnant. She always worries so much about me “getting fat because it’s in our genes” so she tells me i need to watch what i eat & i need to start working out regularly (my daughter is just over 2 weeks old). I’m just wondering if anyone else has dealt with this? And if so do you have any advice for me? She’s so insecure i can’t even have a conversation with her without something i say upsetting her. I feel like I’m dealing with a 12 year old who is going through puberty. I love my mom more than anything & she tries to be better but i feel like i can’t even be around her & i don’t want my daughter to pick up what she does ☹️