Anyone have tips on how to stop the constant bickering after a baby?

For example: got my hair done Monday after work and was yelled at for picking a day so close to the holidays, when we have so much to do. Got home and he dragged his feet for an hour before doing anything productive.

Today: asked him to drive the baby home from his parents house and let him nap while I ran to the store. He immediately got frustrated and asked why I couldn’t just go when the baby woke up. (Mind you, this is the same week we have NO TIME for me to get my hair done- how dare I) but I can waste time sitting around while the baby naps. I brushed it off and said nothing to him about it.

Busted my butt the past 2 days getting our rooms unpacked for our holiday housewarming. Asked him what to put the baby in for pics with Santa and suggested a onesie. To which he replied “ew no I don’t like the big necks.” And I said “you’re really critical over that stuff. He’s a baby and that’s just how they’re made.” I was told that I can’t just value his opinion and I always have to be bitchy. I apologized and said my intention was not to come off that way. IT WASNT. I’ve been trying so hard to keep him happy and relieve us from petty fights. He said “there’s too many I’m sorrys in this marriage anymore.”

At least I say I’m sorry? When I was told to “get home” and hung up on on Monday- I never heard an “I’m sorry.”

I work full time, so all the chores, and do every single thing for the baby with a random break here and there to do things around the house. I’m blown away.

Someone please give me advice bc I’m losing my mind. How can I be trying so hard and still failing?

Also- my son is 15 months. Not even a newborn... hello?

UPDATE:

This morning after I asked if he was still angry, he flipped out and threw clothes across the entire house. He proceeded to tell me later that my attitude is the problem. Not him. He also told me he bought our house for me and he’s not even happy with it. Bought for me. I WORK FULL TIME TOO. And if you factor in the cost of free childcare, I make $200/month less than him. He didn’t buy me shit.