Am I doing the right thing?

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0K so I’m 17, a senior in high school, and I live with my grandmother. She’s super protective and raised almost all of my siblings. 
Now as everyone started going to college everyone just so happened to stay relatively close, the farthest one at 2.5 hours away and the closest 30 minuets away. 
She throughly enjoyed that because she has separation issues and with everyone close she could be at ease. 
Let me tell you another thing about her: she is extremely abusive. Not only physically but also emotionally. So because of this I want to get away as far as possible. 
My dream school is 4 hours away. It’s gorgeous. It’s the closest school to me with my major, and I already know people who work and attend their. 
My dilemma is my grandma said that if I go to this school she’ll kick me out. Mind you I already applied early decision, got in, accepted the acceptance, and got room and board. So I’m gonna get kicked out eventually. I already have a place set up for when I tell her I’m going there. My highs School is super supportive (charter school) so they’re going to help me go back and forth. And my best friend is going to the same school so we can drive up and back together. 
I just need some reassurance that I’m doing the right thing. All my teachers said I’m doing the right thing (I have a special bond with them) and all my friends said I’m doing the right thing. 
Also is there any flaw to my plan? I have a job so I can at least begin to save so I can semi-support myself in school. I got a free ride to the school (it was the only school that gave it to me), so I don’t have to worry about tuition or room and board. 
Thank you guys for listening! I really appreciate it.

Accepted Answer

I think you made the right choice. Not many people have the opportunity to go to the school of their dreams and you have a full ride! And I would assume you have been working extremely hard for it! Your whole future depends on this and you said it’s the closest school with your major. I would do it in a heartbeat! All in all I would hope your grandma would understand at some point in time

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I didn’t even get to the end of your story and I thought “yes you’re doing the right thing”

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I used university as a way to get away from my abusive parents, I'm poor as fuck from having no support from family where most students have some help financially from parents and would probably be homeless if I didn't live with my partner but honestly I still think it was the best decision of my life. 
Getting out of an abusive atmosphere is never a bad decision, going to university allowed me to cut them out of my life completely and I'm so much better for it, just because somebody is related to you and raised you does not mean you owe them anything, do what is right for you not what is right for someone who abused you. 
Good luck

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She may be your grandmother but she’s abusive...that’s all you had to say. You don’t need that. You have it set for yourself already don’t give it up just bc she has separation issues, you WILL regret it and possibly hold resentment against her for it forever and it won’t help the ‘relationship’. Tell her off and leave. She may realize one day how she fucked up and she’ll change. But you can’t teach an old dog new tricks so it’s a chance. You will hurt after you leave and feel guilty but you don’t owe anybody anything. You do this for yourself and you get out there and succeed!!

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You’re doing the right thing imo. Just make sure you make arrangements for a place to live while you’re not away for school if you’re staying on campus. Idk how your school works, but my alma mater shuts down the dorms between fall&spring; semester as well as over the summers. If that’s the case with your school just be sure you have a friend or family member who is willing to house you! 
Also, congratulations on your acceptance & full ride! I hope everything works out for you 😊

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If you don't go you will regret it for the rest of your life. We all have to spread our wings and fly fly fly 🦋

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I feel like going back and forth will be very difficult, especially since it's 4 hours away. I do think getting away and going to the school you want was the right choice. I hope everything works out for you.

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Don't ever ever let anyone discourage you from getting the education you want.

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THATS THE BEST F-ing DECISIÓN EVER

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F**k your grandmother and go live your life how you want

Am I doing the right thing?

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