EDIT: don’t bother commenting if you don’t have anything productive to add to the convo. I am not at all opposed to a different viewpoint but I don’t appreciate people calling me a “side hoe” (when this isn’t even about me) or making rude comments just because you don’t like my viewpoint. You can disagree all you want but be respectful.

Hi, so I’ve been seeing a couple posts on this topic on this app and other social media sites. Particularly, where a woman was confessing that they are with a man who left his old gf or wife for her. Or perhaps the woman is beginning a relationship with a man who is married or has a gf. The common response by other woman is immediate hatred and scorn. I feel like very few people can talk about this topic logically and removing all personal emotions about cheating.

I do believe that a person can fall out of love with another person. I do believe that sometimes couples stay together for convenience even when all real feelings of love are gone. I do believe you can be with someone and meet someone else that you like more. I do believe sometimes this can progress to a situation where a person has to leave their partner for a new love. This is reality; it happens all the time.

I do not think that the people involved in this usually have malicious intent. Sometimes you can’t help your feelings for another even when it is wrong.

My thought is that I don’t understand why the women are blamed for “stealing” a man, when the reality is that your man willingly went with her? The other woman did not make a promise to you; your spouse or boyfriend did.

I don’t get why other women feel the need to write “karma is a bitch” and “you’re a side hoe, he will cheat on you, too” to make themselves feel better. There is honestly no truth to those statements. Just because someone left their former bf or spouse doesn’t mean he will leave their current one.

My view is that a lot of women read these stories and worry that their spouse or SO will leave them, thus projecting their insecurities onto these situations and are unable to think logically about it.

What do you think?