I MC just a few days before Halloween at 5 1/2weeks. It was my first pregnancy and we had been TTC for 2 years at that point. We haven’t really told anyone about the MC as I haven’t been able to bring myself to do it as it’s still so painful to talk about.

Well since it was Christmas I knew the question would be coming. When are you going to have kids?

I tried my best the first couple of times to brush off the painful feelings and try to play it off that we weren’t quite ready for kids just yet. You know try to put on a happy face.

But after the umpteenth time I broke and said well we have a baby in heaven.

I know people don’t really know what to say but I absolutely hate the saying “at least you know that you can get pregnant”

Like really? You think that’s an ok thing to say to someone?

Like it’s ok to just brush off the fact that I lost a child cuz i was only a few weeks pregnant.

That is a baby I’ll never get to hold, never get to know if it was a girl or boy, never get to know their personality or see who they would have looked like.

I’d rather have gotten another BFN then lost my child.