I've been married for a year and been on and off TTC for the same amount of time. my husband doesn't really cooperate, he said he never thought getting married and having kids was option for him and then I came along and "ruined that whole plan" which he doesn't say in a mean way, just that he never thought his life would turn out this way. He tells me he wants kids but when it comes to TTC, he's less than helpful. We've been together 4.5 years and at least 3.5 of that, he has been uninterested in sex. We BD maybe once a month which I know is not enough to really be helpful when TTC. I'm at my wits end about it; I'm not proud of the crap I've done but I have guilt tripped him, thought about divorce, agrued until I'm blue in the face.. (I work at and OB/GYN office and birthing center watching women deliver babies all the time which makes things worse.) it's almost a daily question from people about when we will have kids, especially around the holidays and I'm to the point of telling them I don't want kids, we aren't planning on having any (all while I have a box full of baby clothes stuffed in the closet of our spare bedroom). I'm so fed up I booked a vacation for us to go to Harry potter world in october and told him I'll be damned if you get me pregnant before then because I'm riding those freaking roller coasters.. I'm gonna go buy him a pack of condoms and tell him if he for some odd reason wants to have sex with me, he has to use those cause I'm done. (and before yall start, he's not cheating. he works and comes home, we have the same work schedule and he doesn't like porn). super excited about my Harry potter shirts though!