How to not f*ck your next relationship after being in an abusive one?

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How to not f*ck your next relationship after being in an abusive one? Any tips and tricks? 
Abuse was mental, physical, and emotional..
I know the basics, don’t be clingy, give each other space, make time for each other, be faithful, be humble to one another, respect each other, respect boundaries. Any others? I’m learning now thanks let me know

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I got out of an abusive relationship in March and I met my current boyfriend in June
I think some of it comes with the type of person you get into a relationship with like my boyfriend is very understanding and supportive so if I do have an issue or an insecurity or whatever I can tell him what’s bothering me
So finding someone who is open to accepting all of you 
I told my boyfriend everything from the start (partly due to the fact my abusive ex lives on the same road as me)

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I was in a mentally abusive relationship when i was in high school for a long time, and that sort of put a strain on all my relationships after that.  At that age, i didn’t know what was going on and i thought you just take their shit because you “love them” fast forward to me being in my mid 20’s and currently engaged, this relationship took a lot of work. I was one to NEVER talk about my feelings and how i felt about situations, because that was my state of mind from my mental abuse. 
For myself and my relationship, to make it work i had to talk openly about how i felt and what i didn’t like, or what i felt needed to be changed/worked on, and especially put trust into this man.
So far, so good (on most days lol) 
Hope this helps. Xo

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The best advice I can give you is to not assume your next boyfriend will do the same as the last. 
Leave the negative stuff behind and start fresh, but look for warning signs early on to ensure you won’t be put in that situation again. 
Don’t ever tell yourself “it was just one time” or “but he’s so different.” If it feels ANYTHING like your past relationship did, get out.

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Go to a therapist. I saw one after my abusive relationship. It really helped

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Hi! I’ve recently went through the same ordeal. I was in a relationship with a drunk and he was physically and emotionally abusive. To put it in perspective, I had gained quite a bit of weight when we were together because we went out to the bars a lot (the alcoholic in him and I had just turned 21 so it was new and exciting) and he told me once that the reason we were broke is because I spent all of my money on food, despite his not having a job and taking my paycheck out to the bar. I’m in a healthy relationship now. We live together and have been dating for about a year and a half. We have a dog and a cat, a mortgage, can afford to go on vacation and are just happy. I’ll be honest, it took a lot of work to get from the low point to where I am now, but it was worth every step. The most important thing I’ve learned is to just be honest and let him/her know about your past. I told my boyfriend right away that I was broken, he knew what he was getting in to and there were and still are setbacks.
Talk to a counselor and invest yourself in something you love. I moped about my relationship while lying on my friends couch eating Chinese food and watching Netflix the summer of 2016 before I decided to get off my butt and do something about it. I immersed myself in loving myself. I lost weight, I began working out, fell head over heels in love with yoga and just found out who I was again. Reintroduce yourself to yourself. Find what you love and find out who you are without him. Fee free to shoot me a message if you have any additional questions. I’m rooting for you 💖

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the main thing is communicate. I left an abusive relationship and it left me a complete mess. When I met my now husband I threw all my shit at his door (so to speak) and expected him to run a mile. but he stayed. We have been together 5 yrs now and I still have flash backs and struggle with certain aspects of a relationship, but my husband is very understanding and patient. so long as you explain why you react a bit crazy or close down around certain things and he is an understanding man then you will get through it. There really is no one set of rules, you will have to make your own and be kind to yourself when something unexpected throws you through loop.

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We’re you the abuser or was he?

How to not f*ck your next relationship after being in an abusive one?

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