okay so I come to visit my dad/siblings/stepmom

every year and holiday! anyway my stepmom has twins (siblings) with my father. she’s been going through a lot with them and she gets stressed out easily because my siblings are bad! such as crying and much more!!! me and my stepmom has a situation too!! me and my dad are close and all

the problem is I’m not sure if I should say anything to my stepmom for what I have done in the past (I’m leaving and going back home on the third of jan) but I’m not sure if I should say anything until I leave on text or say something now? any help on what I should say and when I should say/text?