Thoughts on Sleeping Together Before TEMPLE Marriage?

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So I had a roommate who slept with her fiancé at his house every night up until they got married in the temple. They didn’t have sex, they just slept in the same bed together. They didn’t tell their bishop that they slept in the same bed every night.
Now I have a different roommate who wants to marry the guy that she’s dating and they say they’re working towards a temple marriage. But ever since the first night they ever met, they have had sleep overs sleeping in the same bed.
What are your thoughts on these situations? Personally, I don’t think people are exactly worthy of a temple marriage if they are sleeping in the same bed every night before they are married. Even if they aren’t doing anything. Especially because they will have eternity to sleep together after getting married! I understand if it’s a little nap or they fall asleep on accident, but it’s not like that. I think not sleeping together at night before a temple marriage is really important.
I remember when I was little, whenever we visited a girl’s house that my dad was dating (my parents are divorced) he would ALWAYS go out of his way to sleep in a different house. Not just a different room or on the couch; he would sleep somewhere completely different. It made me think that’s really important.
And I talked to my aunt & Uncle about it and they said that when couples prepare for a temple marriage, the bishop will ask some questions that relate to that and they should not be sleeping together. (I’m not married and haven’t gone through the temple, so I wouldn’t know.)
I mean I’ve definitely slept in the same bed with a guy, don’t get me wrong. But if I was working towards a temple marriage with them I would not! 
I don’t know, it just really bothers me seeing these people I know not going towards temple marriage in the right way. Please let me know if I’m wrong!

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If you aren't breaking the law of chastity, I don't see the issue? It's risky because the temptation is there, but I don't think it's a deal breaker, but that's just me.

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I think it’s playing with Fire. But if you are being chaste I don’t see why not. My husbands brother and his wife did. I thought they were stupid for doing it tho lol especially since she talked about how horny she was all the time.

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My husband and I set a pretty strict bar when we were engaged. Sleeping with your loved one is the absolute best thing, but for the most part I wouldn’t do it because I didn’t want to do anything to endanger my temple sealing. And tbh, I wouldn’t have been able to feel worthy, I think. We’re asked to follow the law both in the letter and in spirit. I think that a LOT of young people violate the law of chastity and think nothing of it, and that it’s best to stay as safe as possible.

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I agree that it’s wrong to sleep together in the same bed before marriage. But I would be lying if I said I wasn’t guilty of at least similar situations. When I was engaged my now husband and I would hang out every evening and I would normally lay in bed with him until he fell asleep then I’d go home. As we got closer to our wedding and the bishops counsel started we were told while we hadn’t ruined our ability for a temple marriage that our actions weren’t ok and that it needed to stop. And honestly I didn’t realize it was something wrong, looking back it’s an obvious duh that can cause bad situations type of thing and I know better. So maybe these couples are just blinded by temptation and wanting to spend constant time together and don’t realize that what’s going on isn’t a good thing? Before we got engaged I would never had put us in the situation, but the fact that we would be eternal companions and I knew that eventually we would be able to live together and be intimate really clouded my judgement of ok and not ok.

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Well just a little update: my roommate that spends the night with her boyfriend almost every night is not going to get married in the temple. This is because they have sex all the time lol (no surprise since they’re sleeping together all the time - although not saying it isn’t possible to sleep together all the time and not have sex. I’m sure it’s very hard though). 
Thanks for all your opinions and input!

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It itself is not wrong, but why put yourself in a situation with such temptation? Because of how easily that temptation would arise while sleeping next to each other in the same bed, I would definitely advise against it.

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When my husband and I were dating, I would occasionally spend the night with him. We never did anything, just shared the bed. Once we were engaged however, we decided to be a lot more careful. We had a 4 month engagement, and I believe we went the whole thing making sure we were home every night. We didn't feel the need to see a bishop about having shared a bed before hand, but had we been sleeping in a bed together closer to the wedding I would have been talking to a bishop and making sure we were still good to go. That's just me though, I'm sure some people feel it's between them and the Lord.

Thoughts on Sleeping Together Before TEMPLE Marriage?

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