am i wrong?

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my fiancé started letting his son play video games when he was 2.. not the appropriate kind neither, him and his mother and his grandmas let him play gta 5!? which is a huge hell no for me, am i the only one that finds that fucking disturbing?.. so i shut that shit down real quick and told him absolutely none of that shit in my house.. i’ll let him play kid games like lego star wars and other lego games.. he’s almost 4 now.. i can’t take away video games completely, he’s not my kid.. but i’m with his father and they both live in my house i should most definitely have a say.. and honestly i dont think he should be playing video games at all?!.. he’s 4!... when i was that age i was outside making mudd pies and playing with my barbies and my brothers hot wheels! 😒 and everytimei tell my fiancé that he rolls his eyes at me and continues to let him play whenever the hell he wants.. this child knows what it means to die, to kill and literally calls everything a “bad guy” because of these stupid video games and i’m just completely disgusted, am i wrong for feeling this way? because he treats me as if i’m being over dramatic and bitchy.. and i don’t even know what the hell his grandmas and his mother allow him to play when he is with them... 😤😤😤 trying not to lose my shit, i’m almost 9 months pregnant with our daughter and there is no way in hell im letting her play video games at that age, and i don’t want him playing that shit in front of her.. what the hell am i ganna do

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My ex-husband let his son play from a very young age like it was his baby sitter. He was socially inept then and even 5 years later when I left. My step son could not carry on a conversation to save his life... it drove me nuts. I was disgusted with my ex because of this and he fucked his child up for life. So I fully believe it stunts their growth and reasoning abilities. Put a stop to it now if you can.

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No youre not wrong. It's highly inappropriate for a child that young to be playing violent games like that. Definitely make sure you lay out some ground rules in your home, you're not okay with it so don't allow it. But you can't control what he does with his mother or when hes not around. Clearly it's bad parenting to let a child play with that sort of content and his mother and dad both shouldn't allow it but since they don't care then let it be, but make sure you tell them it's not allowed in your home. Teach the child to play other games that are appropriate for his age.

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Girl I would be just as disgusted. GTA 5??? Where they have hookers, strip clubs, kill and steal cars and money??? Oh my gosh you are not crazy for being pissed. This kid is gonna want to go out and do these things in real life growing up with video games like that as his reality

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He is way to young to be even playing video games especially grand theft auto 5 that's not good at all and your doing the right thing letting him play only the ones for his age his dad should realise he's too young and listen to you I also never played video games at that age I was also playing with my babies and other toys am shocked at what kids play now days

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I'm sorry but your man is absolutely ridiculous. It's sick to let a child that young play video games to begin with but certainly not anything violent like what you've described! you just lay the law down and you tell him absolutely not and stick to it honey you're right and he's wrong

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im going through the same exact thing my step son is 5 now but his grandma and my bf (his dad) they baby him and let him play call of duty smh it pisses me off. i dont agree with him playing those kinds of games either. because like you said at my age i was outside playing or playing mario on nintendo with my brother and sister... im with you on this..💯

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i agree. i dont want my kids playing video games or having any attachment to screens at that age

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You are so right. My step son plays at 9 and I still think its not okay. His mom allows him to watch adult shows too but when he at his daddy house I tell my husband I do not care if he is used to it at his mom its a big NO here; which he listens to me. It drives me crazy when kids watch adult contents

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I completely agree with I. I don't think you're overreacting at all!!! I think that was a great compromise on your part allowing him to have the video games but only age appropriate ones but with another baby about to be in the house this is something y'all will have to come to some sort of agreement on. You may not be his mother but you are a parental figure in his life so I feel like you should get some say. Do you have a good enough relationship with his mom where you could ask her what she allows when he's over there?

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I find this highly disturbing. It’s not good for a little boy’s development, specifically at that young age. Take the violent video games AWAY from him completely. My other suggestion is to have a serious talk with the family, but before that research this, find out the statistics of how this will affect your stepson in the future if this continues.
I am so sorry that you’re going through this with no support. Hang in there, I wish you the best.

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