How can I move on?

Jess

This guy who I was dating for almost 2 yrs decided to finally end it yesterday...

- he always used to blame me for how emotional I get.. (I cry literally to anything). I can be sensitive and my feelings can get hurt easily.. I don’t know why I am like this, but I always think crying makes me help release stress.

My ex and I fought / argued a lot, he was always there for me on my bad days also.

The reason why I would always cry is because of how he would treat me, the way he would always talk to me and the things he says can be really mean...

Example, he used to tell me that sleeping together is a priority to each other and used to be upset if we didn’t sleep together. We sleep together every single night... he moved back into his parents because he’s waiting to move into his new condo, his lease was up so he as to go back to his parents. (We’ve had problems with trying to live at my apartment so he one time broke up with me on a Saturday without telling me, he moved all of his stuff out too.) coming home with an empty room was sad.

ever morning he wakes up at 5am to get to work for 6am. I always used to wake up early for him because of course it happens I love him, I wouldn’t complain. All of a sudden, I wanted to go to my house to sleep so I can wake up for 4am to go to work for 5am. He said sure, and I said can we atleast do this Tuesdays and Fridays and he absolutely agreed to it. Now, he told me “this is going to be an issue in the future” with the worst attitude... like I did something wrong. Then tells me that sleeping alone for 1 night won’t hurt, and it’s like... you used to get mad at me for not sleeping with you, and all of a sudden you need to sleep alone and think it’s ok to make me go home and sleep by myself? & said he “hates my house” even tho we lived at mine for awhile, used to cook there and shower there... like really? Said, I can drive home to get my stuff and then drive back to his parents.... LIKE WHAT? Seriously??? AFTER TELLING ME HE AGREED TO DO WHAT I ASKED.

He tells me to cry in a corner sometimes because he can’t handle how much I cry, and how sensitive I am. Tells me to go home and cry and to deal with it on my own. Tells me, I’m going to be 21 and that I need to grow up. (He’s 29 years old)

Now, this would be like the 6-7th time he needs to be alone because of how angry he is with himself, always breaks up with me so he can figure himself out, and that I need to be happy with myself. It makes no sense on how you can just always break up with someone for a few weeks and then come back to saying, it’s the only way for us to learn how to be happy again.

** side note, he would never cheat on me, I know this because of how he shows his love for me, and I know he does anything for me. I know this sounds crazy, but I promise he’s a sweet guy, he’s just emotional deep down and can’t handle stress very well.** - his mom even knows this, and tells me she knows how much he loves me, he just doesn’t like to deal with stress and is good at walking away easily....

He was a marine for 8yrs, came home 2 yrs ago. So it’s hard for him to handle stress.

He feels bad that he treats me this way and that I don’t deserve it, so all he ever does is walk away and tells me to go fix my own problems and to be happy with myself. Every time he does this to me, I cry even more and I feel so empty and alone.. not being able to sleep with him. He makes this look easy. He doesn’t talk to me for weeks and then comes crawling back.

What do I do guys.. we love each other so much, I already miss him so much, I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to move on. I know he’s going to try and crawl back once again in a few weeks but I just can’t keep doing this to myself . I know I don’t deserve this and he knows that too. He always has control of this relationship and it’s like what about my feelings? Why can’t I be part of these Choices. Now, it’s been only a day and I know for another few weeks, we won’t talk. Someone please help me 😞😞😞😔